What-is & Wanted vs. Unwanted: what-isDo you spend a lot of time thinking and talking about what-is?

  • Is your attention on what-is in relation to your finances or health?
  • Are you focused on what-is when it comes to your job or relationships?

It’s tempting to give weight to what-is by thinking about it and talking about it. You might even believe you can’t get where you want to go unless you first closely examine where you are.

In fact, before my obsession with Law of Attraction, I actually encouraged clients to do just that.

I told them it was like taking a trip. Before you get where you want to go, you have to pull out the map and find where you are. I emphasized the importance of taking stock of here and now, of current reality—of what-is.

Well, my apologies to anyone I ever said that to. I no longer believe it. Through the lens of Law of Attraction, that is very bad advice.

Quite simply: If you want something different than what-is, take your attention off what-is.

Quit observing the “reality” around you if what’s around you isn’t what you want.

“What-is has no bearing on what is coming unless you are continually regurgitating the story of what-is. By thinking and speaking more of how you really want your life to be, you allow what you are currently living to be the jumping-off place for so much more. But if you speak predominantly of what-is, then you still jump off—but you jump off into more of the same.” —Money, and the Law of Attraction

Are you thinking and speaking about how you want your life to be or are you thinking and speaking predominantly about what-is?

For instance, when you spend an hour talking with your best friend about how bad things are at work, you are thinking and speaking about what you don’t want.

By regurgitating the story of what-is, you are activating and re-activating the vibration of frustration and irritation. The vibration of what you don’t want. The vibration of what-is.

And so you attract more of what-is.

If you are observing what-is, thinking about what-is, and talking about what-is, then more of what-is is all you can create. That’s Law of Attraction 101.

You attract with your attention. You create with your focus.

“You are a creator: You create with your every thought. You often create by default. For you are getting what you are giving your attention to wanted or unwanted. But you know by how it feels if what you are getting (creating) is what you are wanting or if it is not what you are wanting. Where is your attention focused?” —Abraham

  • Are you focused on the what-is of unpaid bills or a job you don’t like?
  • Are you focused on the what-is of your cluttered closets or strained marriage?

What is your focus and attention on? Is it on what is wanted or what is unwanted?

“Vibrations don’t stay active without your attention to them.” —Abraham

But when you keep your attention on what-is—and what-is is not what you want—that keeps the vibration active. This means if there are parts of your so-called reality you don’t like and don’t want, get your attention off them.

Now someone might say, But isn’t that magical thinking? Can I really just ignore all the things that are wrong or not the way I want them to be in my life and they will magically change?

Magical or not, that’s how Law of Attraction works.

Every thought is creative. And energy flows where your attention goes.

“Sometimes you justify giving your attention to something because it is true. But, just because it is true is not a good reason, because anything that anyone gives attention to becomes true. A better question is, ‘Do I want to experience it?’” —Abraham

Really let that distinction sink in because it’s so powerful. The distinction between giving your attention to something because it’s “true” versus giving your attention to something because you want to experience it.

Just think about the freedom and power the latter choice offers you. Give your attention to things you want to experience.

This distinction has been life-changing for me.

In the past, I put a lot of stock in being what I’ll call a reliable narrator. Which meant I was always narrating what-is. Always focused on all the facts and details I could observe in front of me.

Since my obsession with Law of Attraction, I realize how much weight and attention and creative power I was giving to things in my life because they were “true” not because I wanted to experience them.

This isn’t about being false or untruthful.

It’s about being discerning about what you give your attention to.

You don’t have to focus on every “fact” of your life. You can choose to focus on what makes you feel good and, thereby, attract and create what you want.

Of course, what-is is made up of many “realities.” Often, though, we focus on the things that aren’t working, what we don’t like and don’t want.

But no matter what’s going on in your life, there are also always the positive aspects of what-is. What if you focused on those? What do you like and appreciate about what-is?

“Make the best of it. When you make the best of whatever you’re focused upon, your future will be better than your now. If each moment you’re making the best of what-is, no matter what it is, you make the best of it; make the best of it; make the best of it—your future just gets better and better and better and better.” —Abraham

Here’s the bottom line: What-is is old news.

You created what-is with your past thinking.

What-is will only be part of your future if you continue to activate that vibration. If you continue thinking those thoughts. If you continue observing what-is and speaking of what-is.

Many of us are so used to focusing our attention and thoughts and words on what is unwanted. And specifically on the unwanted of what-is. We’re so used to complaining and rehashing the details of what-is.

We’re so used to focusing our thoughts and attention on what-is even when it’s not what we want and doing so doesn’t make us feel good.

The other day I was coaching a client around what-is.

She asked, But what am I supposed to be thinking about and talking about if not what’s going on in my life?

She really wanted to know.

  • What should she be thinking about when she’s commuting to work?
  • What should she be talking about at dinner with her girlfriend?

She said, I want to tell my girlfriend how crazy things are at work. And I need to think about how I’m going to deal with my money problems.

So I asked: Are you giving it your attention regardless of how it feels?

It being what-is. Are you giving what-is your attention regardless of how it feels?

My client realized the answer to my question was Yes! She had been willing to think about and talk about what-is—regardless of how it made her feel. Regardless of the negative emotion created.

She had thought it was important to discuss the so-called facts and to face so-called reality. But thinking and speaking about what-is didn’t feel good to my client, which was a sure sign she was mis-creating.

Let’s go back to the question my client asked.

What are you supposed to be thinking about and talking about?

Well, here it is: Stop being factual and start being intentional with the thoughts you think and the words you speak.

Tell the story of what you want and like, not what you don’t want and don’t like.

Focus on what feels good, not what doesn’t. Get your attention off what-is if what-is isn’t what you want.

“Many people protest when we explain to them the power of telling the story of their finances as they want it to be rather than as it is, because they believe that they should be factual about what is happening. But if you continue to look at lackful what-is and speak of what-is, you will not find the improvement that you desire. If you want to effect substantial change in your life experience, you must think thoughts that feel different as you think them.” —Money, and the Law of Attraction

It’s really this simple: Focusing on a present you don’t want is not going to create a future you like better.

I encourage you to consider what-is in a new light.

In a way that better serves you.

Don’t let what-is hold you from alignment. Don’t let the circumstances of your current “reality” keep you from feeling good.

To be a deliberate creator, you have two choices: Focus on positive aspects of what-is or take your attention off what-is altogether.

“When you withdraw your attention from those things that are not pleasing, and you put your attention upon those things that are pleasing, those pleasing things begin to become more abundant; and those not-pleasing things become more rare. Until, eventually, those not-pleasing things cannot be part of your experience because you will have eliminated your attraction factor from your vibration…What you think and what you get always matches.” —Abraham

That is the power of disregarding how things are—if how things are is not pleasing to you.

Of course, remember: There’s nothing inherently wrong with what-is.

Your what-is may be 100% wonderful. If so, that’s fantastic! But if your what-is isn’t 100% wonderful, there are still positive aspects you could choose to focus on.

Keep it simple when it comes to what is meant by positive aspects. You can easily focus on positive aspects by paying attention to:

  • What you want.
  • What you like.
  • What’s working.
  • What you appreciate.

It’s that simple!

“The ability to imagine what you are wanting, rather than only observing what-is, is what takes you beyond.” —Abraham

And that’s what you want—to go beyond what-is.

Just think about the amazing capacity you have to imagine.

To imagine what you want. To imagine what you like. To visualize, to dream. To see in your mind’s eye all that you want to achieve and acquire, all that you want to experience and embody.

Your ability to imagine what you want is truly incredible!

But too many of us not making use of this capability. We’re just looking at what’s right in front of us. We’re just observing what-is—the overdue notice, the empty house, the extra pounds, the long commute.

We don’t want what-is, but we’re observing it anyway. We don’t want what-is and it doesn’t feel good to fixate on it, but we do it anyway.

“Never mind what-is. Imagine it the way you want it to be so that your vibration is a match to your desire. When your vibration is a match to your desire, all things in your experience will gravitate to meet that match every time.” —Abraham

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