How to Feel Better: refeeling

If you’re rethinking or remembering some wonderful happy event, then refeeling it is a good thing. Let’s say you’re thinking about a joyous memory. Maybe an amazing trip you took or the moment you fell in love or getting the job you really wanted.

Even though what you’re remembering is in the past, you feel the joy. And because you are activating that joyous vibration in the present moment, refeeling works to your advantage.

But the principle works both ways.

Which means when you are rethinking the argument, the bad breakup, the job loss, the health diagnosis, the decision you regret, then you are also refeeling it. You are refeeling the disappointment or anger, the frustration or fear.

If you are refeeling it, that is the vibration you are offering to which the Law of Attraction responds.

It doesn’t matter that the circumstance, event, or situation is from the past and not actually happening in this moment. What matters is that because you are rethinking it, you are refeeling it, and, therefore, offering that vibration.

Your emotions are signals. Your emotions are always giving you feedback about your vibrational offering and, therefore, your point of attraction.

  • When you feel positive emotion, you are attracting.
  • When you feel negative emotion, you are attracting.

But, of course, what you are attracting in those two scenarios is very different. When you feel positive emotion, you’re attracting what you want. When you feel negative emotion, you are attracting what you don’t want.

I’ve noticed some of us wander around in the past—in the bad neighborhood of hurtful memories, depressing regrets, and disappointments as if it’s a hobby.

The fact that it makes us feel bad is apparently not enough of a warning sign. We don’t pay attention to the clear signal that negative emotion is telling us to redirect our thinking.

Instead, we walk into the condemned house of bad memories, open all the doors, and look inside at the things from our past we wish were different. All the while feeling lousy.

Again, the thing is not happening now. The past is not happening now. The past is only thoughts in your mind. You have to intentionally walk down memory lane to get to the past. And as you rethink, you refeel.

The only way to shift how you feel about something is to shift the thoughts you have about it.

Let’s say you used to think about the bad breakup in a way that created feelings of unworthiness and insecurity. It’s only if you think new thoughts, different thoughts about the breakup that you can feel differently.

What we think about causes a feeling within us, a vibration. So when we think about certain things in a certain way—based on the meaning we attach to it—we feel. We have a feeling response.

This is why at the very core of leveraging Law of Attraction is the notion you need to be intentional about what you focus your attention on and about the meaning you give the circumstances in your life.

Your thought-feeling combo is the magnet that is attracting.

Your thought-feeling combo is what Law of Attraction responds to, bringing you circumstances, people, events, situations, and things of a similar frequency.

Here’s what I would ask you: What is your thought-feeling combo? What thoughts have you been thinking and what emotions have you been feeling?

Never doubt the cause and effect. Your thoughts create your feelings. If you don’t want to feel emotions on the low end of the emotional scale, like discouragement or anger, then stop thinking thoughts that create those emotions.

“Do not waste one moment in regret, for to think feelingly of the mistakes of the past is to re-infect yourself.” —Neville Goddard

To think feelingly. Really let that sink in—what it means to think feelingly. Whether you are thinking feelingly about the past, present, or future, to think with feeling is to activate the thought.

“An activated thought means a thought that when I think it, I have a feeling response. If you’re not having a feeling response to something, a feeling that feels good or a feeling that feels bad—the thought is not that powerful, and it is probably not a big player in your vibrational mix.” —Abraham

Every thought is creative, but thoughts that come with strong emotion are more powerful.

They are activated and have more power to attract.

Now, Neville mentioned regrets and the past. But you can also think feelingly about your future in a way that doesn’t serve you.

For instance, if you are worrying about something in your future, if you are thinking thoughts about your future that are causing you to feel worry or fear, then you are thinking feelingly, and the Law of Attraction is responding.

Of course, your future isn’t happening right now. Whatever you’re worried about hasn’t happened.

But you are thinking about it now. You are feeling in response to your thoughts about it in this present moment. And the present moment is where your creative power is.

“Things are coming into your experience in response to your vibration. Your vibration is offered because of the thoughts you are thinking, and you can tell by the way you feel what kinds of thoughts you are thinking. Find good-feeling thoughts and good-feeling manifestations must follow.” —Abraham

The more I study and research the Law of Attraction, the more I experiment and practice, I realize it keeps coming back to this: Be intentional about your thoughts.

Choose your thoughts. Redirect your thoughts. Think on purpose.

As Abraham says, find good-feeling thoughts. At the very least, always reach for the best feeling thought you have access to.

Too many of us are simply not doing this. Too many of us are indulging in thoughts that make us feel bad. We are not managing our mind. We are giving free rein to any thought that pops in our head.

I’m not suggesting you never rethink about anything. I’m not saying don’t rethink about the argument you had with your mother-in-law yesterday or the disappointment at work last week. But I am saying when you rethink, you refeel.

If the emotion you refeel is some flavor of negative emotion, then that is your point of attraction. Plain and simple.

Be choosy about which thoughts you’re willing to give free rein in your mind.

For instance, I have a kind of rule for myself: Any thought that creates positive emotion in me, I give absolute free rein. As the boss of my mind, I let my mind know it can have at it with any thought that makes me feel good. Linger on it, revel in it, appreciate it.

But my mind is on a very short leash when it comes to thoughts that cause me to feel negative emotion. I have very low tolerance for them. I will do whatever I can to nip them in the bud and redirect my focus and attention to a thought that produces positive emotion or at least is neutral.

I really don’t spend time thinking about past regrets or hurts. I don’t entertain thoughts that make me feel lousy. I’m not willing to spiral down to the low end of the emotional scale because I’m rethinking circumstances or situations that I then refeel.

Now when I say all that, I’m not perfect at it. I can start to head down that road of negative emotion, but my intention, always, is to think on purpose and to feel good.

I am intentional about the thoughts I think because I know my thoughts cause my feelings, and my thought-feeling combo creates my reality.

I encourage you to think on purpose.

When you rethink about your boss calling you out in the meeting last week and then refeel the anger or insecurity, that’s not useful. That only messes with your vibration and lowers your point of attraction, and I know that’s not what you want.

What you are thinking right now is creating your future. You get more of what you feel about.

If you are thinking thoughts that create negative emotion in you, that’s what you will get more of. Circumstances and people and things of that same frequency will show up in your reality.

Let’s get practical. 

To really leverage the Law of Attraction, you have to be aware of how you’re feeling.

So I want you to grow the skill of noticing how you feel, and then connecting any negative emotion you experience to the thought that caused it.

I certainly do this. When I experience negative emotion, of any kind, I ask myself, Jennifer, what thought were you thinking that caused you to feel bad?

And there is always a thought. I want to know what it is. I want to pinpoint the thought causing me to feel bad.

Do not underestimate the power of that question. It’s eye-opening and empowering to make the connection between your thoughts and the feelings they cause.

Why is that so powerful? Because you start to realize you can feel any way you want, you can feel good, because you can manage your mind to think thoughts that feel good to you.

Again, notice when you feel bad and then ask yourself what thought created the negative emotion.

Next is where the proverbial rubber hits the road. I want you to get good at asking yourself: Is this what I want to be creating?

Remember, you create more of how you feel. So anytime you experience negative emotion, ask yourself, Is this what I want to be creating. I’m guessing your answer will be no.

Which brings us to the next LoA skill to master. And that is: Choose what you focus your attention on—and what you don’t.

  • Choose to give your attention to thoughts that cause you to feel positive emotion.
  • Choose to take your attention off thoughts that cause you to feel negative emotion.

You are so powerful because you can choose your thoughts. You can decide what to focus on and pay attention to. No one else can do this for you or to you.

These skills I’m talking about are not new ones I’ve discovered.

I’ve certainly mentioned them in past podcast episodes, and they’re probably not new to you. But I’ve noticed sometimes we want to skip past the foundational LoA skills in search of something shinier, something new, or something we perceive as easier.

In fact, the other day a client got a little frustrated in a coaching session because she knows these are core LoA skills, foundational LoA skills. But she wants a different path to manifestation.

She wants to bypass the need to manage her thinking. She wants a shortcut or LoA hack that would allow her to manifest what she wants without having to manage her mind, without having to stop thinking thoughts that cause her to feel negative emotion.

Here’s the bottom line: If my client is unwilling to trade thoughts that make her feel bad for thoughts that make her feel good, nothing much in her reality can or will change.

These skills are not complicated. I don’t think we do ourselves any favors by complicating them or bypassing them in the hope there’s a loophole or shortcut or LoA hack that means you can still routinely think thoughts that make you feel negative emotion, but manifest the life of your dreams.

That’s simply not how the Law of Attraction works.

Let me recap these essential LoA skills for thinking on purpose:

  • Notice how you feel. Keep it simple: You either feel good or bad.
  • Connect negative emotion to the thought that caused it.
  • Choose to redirect your focus to better-feeling thoughts.

“Rather than trying to monitor your thoughts, we encourage that you simply pay attention to how you are feeling. For if you should choose a thought that is not in harmony with the way that broader, older, wiser, loving Inner Being part of you sees it, you will feel the discord; and then you can easily redirect your thought to something that feels better and, therefore, serves you better.” —The Law of Attraction, The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham