What-is & Wanted vs. Unwanted: stirring up trouble

I’m known among those who know me best for stirring up trouble, pushing and prodding, and calling a spade a spade.

Perhaps those don’t sound like desirable traits, but they’re actually the exact reasons people love me. And the very reasons I’m a catalyst for change in the lives of others.

How do I stir up trouble?

I have a tendency to try to talk people out of their corporate jobs or make big changes to move from a job or career to a calling. In my defense, this is only after someone tells me how unhappy they are in Cubeland or in their current soul-deadening job.

How do I push people?

When they tell me they want more, I’m the bulldozer beside them moving heaven and earth to help them clear a path. I’m the one who reminds them about what they said they wanted when the going gets tough and it’s easier to fall back on the status quo.

And calling a spade a spade?

Well, let’s just say it’s difficult for me to keep quiet when there’s a disconnect between what people say they want and the life they’re living. To me, naming that gap is an essential part of my calling.

You’re the expert on you

Now don’t get me wrong. I don’t have my own agenda when it comes to the lives of others. It’s not up to me to know what’s best for someone, what lights them up, what puts a spring in their step.

It’s different for everyone and I believe wholeheartedly each woman is an expert in her own life.

So I don’t set the agenda for others, but I do want more for people. I want them to believe more, try more, risk more, stretch more. In short, I want them to want more for themselves.

We go around once and it’s a real shame not to create the life you really want.

Do you need a little “trouble” stirred up?

Could you benefit from a push or a prod? Do you need to look your life in the eye and call a spade a spade? If so, here are a few questions to get started:

  • What’s missing from your life right now? What’s there that shouldn’t be?
  • When you think about different areas of your life, where are you most satisfied? Most dissatisfied?
  • Think about your ideal day. Now think about a typical day in your life. What’s the disconnect?
  • What are you not doing enough of that you want to start?
  • What vision or goal is compelling enough for you to make radical changes in your life?
  • What consumes your time that doesn’t serve you or your best life?
  • What opportunities are currently available you’re not making the most of?
  • What would you do with your time and energy if money and resources were limitless?

If there’s a gap between where you are today and where you want to be, I encourage you to want more for yourself and make plans to bridge that gap!