What-is & Wanted vs. Unwanted: wrong end of the stick

Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction.

Today we’re going to talk about whether you’ve been picking up the wrong end of the stick. A lot of us are—and don’t even realize it!

This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…

  • A classic Law of Attraction framework about what is wanted and unwanted
  • How to know if you’re in receiving mode for wellness or illness, abundance or scarcity
  • What your anxiety is alerting you to
  • Three signs you’re activating the unwanted end of the stick
  • The difference in vibration between I never have enough money vs. I’m looking forward to having more money
  • Why you can’t focus upon unwanted and receive wanted
  • What happens when the words are right, but the feelings don’t match up
  • How to have a more consistent vibration so you can manifest what you want in life


“Every subject is really two subjects: There is that which you desire, and the lack of it. Often—even when you believe you are thinking about something that you desire—you are actually thinking about the exact opposite of what you desire.” —Ask and It Is Given

“It is like picking up a stick with two ends: One end represents what you do want; the other end represents what you do not want.” —Money, and the Law of Attraction

“It is possible to be focused in vibrational opposition to what you really desire without knowing you are. It is like the opposite ends of a stick. When you pick up a stick, you pick up both ends.” —Abraham

“Your anxiety is not warning you of something to come. Your anxiety is alerting you to a vibration that’s happening now.” —Abraham

“When you are thinking of money in the way that it will come to you, you always feel good. When you are thinking of money in the way that keeps it from coming to you, you always feel bad. That is how you know the difference.” —Abraham

“If you are focused on problems, the Law of Attraction will bring problems to you faster than you can fix them.” —Abraham

“The way you clear unwanted out is by focusing on what is wanted. It is really that simple! And the way you do that is by reaching for more satisfaction in the thought.” —Abraham

“Every subject is really two subjects, with what is wanted on one end of the stick, and the absence of what is wanted on the other end. Sometimes you are a perfect vibrational match to the unwanted end of the stick but you don’t realize it because it feels normal to you. And that is only because it is more usual for you to talk about the problem rather than the solution.” —Abraham

“Continuing to tell stories of shortage only continues to contradict your desire for abundance, and you cannot have it both ways: You cannot focus upon unwanted and receive wanted.” —Abraham

“So the stick called “Physical Well-Being” has “wellness” on one end and “illness” on the other. However, people do not experience “illness” only because they are looking at the negative end of the “Physical Well-Being” stick, but because they have been looking at the “I know what I don’t want” end of many, many sticks.” —Money, and the Law of Attraction

“The way to avoid repeating unwanted situations is to talk about wanted situations. Talk about what you do want; and discontinue dialogue about any unwanted experiences, situations, or results.” —Abraham

“Sometimes you believe that you are focused upon what you want when actually the opposite is true. Just because your words sound positive, or your lips are smiling while you say them, does not mean that you are vibrating on the positive end of the stick. It is only by being aware of the way you are feeling while offering your words that you can be sure that you are, in fact, offering a vibration about what you do want, rather than what you do not want.” —Money, and the Law of Attraction

“Let your point of attraction match your desire and not the absence of it.” —Abraham

“Your point of attraction is literally the combination of those things that you give your attention to.” —Abraham

“Telling many good-feeling short stories throughout your day will change your point of attraction. Just remember that the story you tell is the basis of your life. So tell it the way you want it to be.” —Abraham

“Entertain a wanted or unwanted thought, and you feel a wanted or unwanted emotion. Choose to change the thought and you’ve changed the emotion—and the creation.” —Abraham

“The only thing that holds you back from getting what you want is paying attention to what you don’t want.” —Abraham


Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health, and Happiness

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