What-Is & Wanted vs. Unwanted: vibration

We live in an attraction-based Universe.

  • You don’t say yes with your words.
  • You don’t say yes with what you want.

Instead, you say yes with your attention.

So here’s what I want to ask: Are you paying attention to what you want? Or…are you paying attention to what you don’t want?

“This is an attraction-based Universe. You cannot say no. You are always saying, ‘Yes please, yes please, yes please,’ with your attention.” —Abraham

Many of us seem to forget this at times.

We forget the power of our focus. We forget the creative power of what we give our attention to. We forget we are living in an attraction-based Universe, and that wherever and whatever we are giving our attention to is saying, yes please.

And when we forget, we inadvertently include what we don’t want in our vibration.

“When you give your attention to something that you desire and you say yes to it, you are including it in your vibration. But when you look at something you do not want and you say no to it, you are including it in your vibration. When you give no attention to it, you do not include it, but you cannot exclude anything that you are giving your attention to, because your attention to it includes it in your vibration, every time without exception.” —Abraham

  • If you look at something and say yes to it, you include it in your vibration.
  • If you look at something and say no to it, you include it in your vibration.

It’s not the yes or the no that matter. It’s not the words, I want this or I don’t want this, that matter. It is simply your attention making the difference when it comes to manifesting.

It is only by not giving attention that you exclude anything from your vibration. Let that land.

  • When you pay attention to your mother-in-laws’ criticism, you include it in your vibration.
  • When you don’t pay attention to your mother-in-law’s criticism, you exclude it from your vibration.

I’ll say it again: “When you give no attention to it, you do not include it.” Yet how often do you keep your attention on something you do not want?

I used to fill journals by writing about situations I did not want. I guess at the time I thought writing about something unwanted was helping me process or helping me solve problems or clarify what I did want.

Looking back though, through the lens of Law of Attraction, I now clearly see I was only including what I did not want in my vibration. It was unintentional, for sure, but that’s what I was doing.

What about you? Are you paying attention to what you don’t want? Are you complaining about it? Do you find your thoughts continually returning to that situation you don’t like?

If you are looking at or talking about or thinking about something you do not want, you are, indeed, including it in your vibration. And since you are including it in your vibration, it is a component of your point of attraction.

Let’s follow where this leads. When you include what you don’t want in your vibration, which makes it part of your point of attraction, you can only attract the essence of what you do not want.

“If you focus upon whatever you want, you will attract whatever you want. If you focus upon the lack of whatever you want, you will attract more of the lack.” —Abraham

Are you focused on what you want or the lack of what you want?

  • If you are paying attention to positive aspects about your partner, you are focused on what you want.
  • If you are paying attention to negative aspects about your partner, you are focused on the lack of what you want.

Your focus is creating. Your focus is attracting.

When you focus on what you like and appreciate, you attract more of that essence. When you focus on what you don’t like and don’t want, you attract more of that essence.

When you experience something you don’t like or don’t want, the unwanted offers clarity about what is wanted. That clarity is a good thing. It launches a rocket of desire.

However, once you know what is wanted, focus there, put your attention there, talk about that, think about that.

Say yes to what is wanted with your attention, with your conversation, with your journaling, with your thinking. Say yes to what you want.

Again, we live in an attraction-based Universe. Your attention—to anything—is saying yes to it.

This is why focusing on the problem is only going to get you more of the essence of the problem. That’s not what you intend, but that is, indeed, what is happening.

Your attention to the problem includes the problem in your vibration. Now, of course that’s not what you are wanting. When you focus on the problem at work or with your spouse or about the kids, you do so in a misguided attempt to solve the problem.

Nonetheless, your attention to the problem only attracts more that matches up with the essence of the problem. Bottom line: Your attention to the problem is saying ‘Yes please’ to the problem. Yikes, right?!

You can tell you’re focused on the problem because it doesn’t feel good. When you think thoughts about the problem, you feel negative emotion.

“The only thing that matters is what you are doing right now in your vibration. And you can tell what you are doing in your vibration right now by the way you feel.” —Abraham

When your attention is on the solution, then the solution is in your vibration—which, of course, is what you want.

When your attention is on what is wanted, then what is wanted is in your vibration and part of your point of attraction.

You can certainly acknowledge what you don’t like about your current situation. But then pivot to what the contrast has clarified you do want.

Here’s an example: Let’s say you feel undervalued at work, even disrespected at times by your boss and colleagues. That’s the current situation.

And now imagine you are talking with a friend about work, telling her you want your next job to be different. That sounds like a great start because it’s a shift from unwanted to wanted.

But then you put your attention right back on what you don’t want—thereby including what you don’t want in your vibration. As you continue to share examples with your friend of being undervalued and disrespected at work, you put your attention squarely on unwanted.

Let’s look at this conversation with your girlfriend through the lens of Law of Attraction: You are looking at something you do not want, saying no to it, and yet absolutely including the very thing you don’t want in your vibration.

You might be scratching your head and asking, What’s the alternative? What am I supposed to do instead?

“You can’t focus upon something that bothers you and something that doesn’t bother you at the same time, and in the moment you withdraw your attention from what’s bothering you, your vibration is going to rise.” —Abraham

So this is about shifting your focus. About shifting your focus from something that bothers you to something that doesn’t bother you.

Shifting your focus from unwanted to wanted might sound like this: I really look forward to being in a job where I am excited about the contribution I’m making. Where my boss and colleagues appreciate me and value what I bring to the table. I’m looking forward to a working relationship that feels empowering.

Your desire is born from the contrast, meaning the unwanted has clarified the wanted. And now you are best served by giving your attention to what is wanted, and only what is wanted.

When you give your attention to what you want, that means you are saying yes to what is wanted, you are including what is wanted in your vibration, and this attraction-based Universe will deliver your desire.

“Get so fixated on what you want, that you drown out any vibration or reverberation that has anything to do with what you do not want.” —Abraham

Are you fixated on what you want? Meaning, is that where your focus is? Is that what you’re thinking about?

To help with this, I often ask myself these two simple questions.

  • What am I paying attention to?
  • Is it something I want?

Paying attention takes different forms. It’s what you’re thinking about on your drive to work or what you’re thinking about as you fall asleep at night. It’s what you talk about with your spouse and what you write about in your journal.

What are you paying attention to?

Start noticing. Start being an observer of where your focus goes.

  • Oh, I’m paying attention to the increase in my insurance premium.
  • Oh, I’m paying attention to my boss giving me a positive feedback in the meeting.

Next, is what you’re paying attention to what you want? In other words, is the focus of your attention something wanted or unwanted?

I encourage you to keep it simple: Wanted or unwanted?

Remember: When you look at something you do not want and you say no to it, you are including it in your vibration.

So it doesn’t matter that you don’t want the increase in your premium. If that’s what you are paying attention to, if that’s what you’re focused on—that unwanted thing—then unwanted is included in your vibration.

“Never mind what is. Imagine it the way you want it to be so that your vibration is a match to your desire.” —Abraham

Those two simple questions—What am I paying attention to? Is it something I want?— tell you everything you need to know about the vibration you are offering at this moment.

  • When you’re focused on something wanted, that serves you very well.
  • When you are focused on something unwanted, you will not be pleased with what you attract.

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