I want to share something I hear frequently: My husband or my girlfriends or my co-workers don’t believe in Law of Attraction. They are skeptical. They doubt and disbelieve.
And then the question I’m asked is, How do I get them on board? How do I get others to believe in Law of Attraction? Sometimes someone will even say: Their skepticism about LoA is throwing me out of alignment.
I want to approach this topic from those two angles:
- How do you get other people to believe what you believe?
- How do you not let what other people believe affect how you feel?
On the one hand, this post is about a belief or disbelief in Law of Attraction. At the same time, it’s really about a belief or disbelief in anything. So if there are things you believe that others around you don’t and that’s creating friction for you, this will definitely apply.
Let’s start with that scenario I described. Your husband or your girlfriend or your colleague doesn’t believe in Law of Attraction.
Maybe they roll their eyes when you bring up the topic. Or maybe you don’t feel comfortable even talking about LoA to people in your circle because you’re afraid they will think you are woo-woo or wacky or whatever.
How do you get others to believe in Law of Attraction?
You don’t. You don’t try to get others to believe what you believe. You don’t put your energy toward convincing anyone of anything. Trying to convince others to think the way you do is low vibe.
So right off the bat, if you were to tell me someone in your life is skeptical about Law of Attraction, I would lovingly say, So what?
It’s not a problem unless you make it a problem. What someone else believes really has nothing to do with you. It’s actually not even your business.
“We want you to care so much about your own balancing of energy, so much so that we want you to leave everyone else out of the equation. And that’s one of the reasons that we think it is really a good idea to get your nose out of everyone else’s business. And you put your nose in your business and your only business is your alignment of energy.” —Abraham
Someone not believing in Law of Attraction is not your business.
Your business is your alignment. Caring about what others think and believe and needing and wanting them to believe as you do, will very likely take you out of alignment.
If you need those near and dear to you to believe in LoA—or anything for that matter—in order for you to feel good, then you are relying on conditions for how you feel.
That, my friends, is conditional alignment. That is X, Y, Z circumstance has to be just so for you to feel good.
I want you to think about the irony, if you will, of needing others to believe in Law of Attraction for you to feel good. Because that is a case study in conditional alignment, and really is the opposite of what LoA is all about.
Here’s what’s going on: You are making their skepticism mean something that causes negative emotion in you.
But it is your thinking, your thoughts, that are responsible for the negative emotion you feel, not what the other person believes.
That’s why I said you could listen to this episode from two perspectives: It’s about belief in Law of Attraction, but it’s also about belief in anything.
When your neighbor doesn’t believe what you believe about how to vote or global warming or whether to eat organic, that is a neutral circumstance. Your thoughts about it are the only thing that can create a problem.
Your thoughts about your neighbor’s belief will either make you feel good or make you feel bad. It’s up to you.
Abraham says what other people believe or disbelieve is not your business.
What other people believe is a neutral circumstance, and not a problem unless you make it one with your thoughts.
When you do make it a problem, be very clear: What you are doing is introducing friction in your own vibration to which the Law of Attraction then responds.
See what’s happening there? It’s not the other person’s skepticism about LoA that is the problem. It is your thought that it’s a problem. Your thought is what’s lowering your vibration.
Perhaps it feels better to you when those around you think the same way you do about things. But, again, that’s making how you feel conditional on the condition that everyone agrees with you or thinks the way you do.
If it feels better to you to have those around you believe what you believe, that means you are factoring others and their opinions into your vibration. And that is not what you want to do.
“The less you try to get others to understand your point of view, the clearer your vibration will be.” —Abraham
Have you been trying to get others to understand your point of view? About Law of Attraction? Or about some other subject?
Remember: Your vibration is based on your thought-feeling combo.
Let’s imagine this is your thought: I want my husband to believe in LoA and stop rolling his eyes every time I bring it up. As a result of that thought you feel irritated and disappointed.
Well, that means irritation and disappointment are the vibration you are offering—and, therefore, the vibration to which Law of Attraction responds. Which means you will attract circumstances, people, events, situations, and things of a similar frequency.
Notice you don’t feel particularly good when you’re trying to get others to believe what you believe. That negative emotion is a sign you are off track and it’s a signal to pivot.
The way you pivot is by minding your own business. By not seeking consensus or approval from others about what you believe.
It’s this simple: When you want others to believe as you do, you are not minding your own business.
You are minding the business of others instead of your own. Because what others think and believe is up to them.
“The greatest thing you can give yourself is freedom from what others think.” —Abraham
Can you feel the relief in that? Because there is sweet relief in not concerning yourself with what others think.
Your #1 job is to maintain your own alignment.
You can’t do that when you’re focusing on others and what they think.
“The secret of the Universe really is minding your own business. What we mean by that is: Don’t get so involved in the desires or beliefs of others that you cause confusion or chatter in your own vibration and compromise your own alignment.” —Abraham
Have you been causing confusion or chatter in your own vibration and thereby compromising your own alignment?
If so, this is your invitation to attend to your own vibration. Just to be really clear: You can only nurture your own vibration when you mind your own business. So let go of caring what others think about Law of Attraction—or anything for that matter.
Your takeaway is really two sides of the same coin:
- Let go of the need for others to believe what you believe. And that includes the need for others to believe in Law of Attraction.
- Stop seeking the approval of others about your beliefs. And that includes stop seeking approval from others about your belief in LoA.
Here’s what I encourage: Let your belief and enthusiasm about Law of Attraction attract those who are on the same frequency. Don’t compromise your frequency, by trying to convince anyone about LoA.
At the same time, don’t compromise your vibration by hiding or denying this part of yourself. Insecurity is 21 of 22 on the emotional scale—so we’re at the bottom. Insecurity about who you are and what you believe doesn’t make you a magnet for the good stuff you want.
“All insecurity, every bit of insecurity that anyone/everyone feels is because they’re looking for someone else’s approval rather than closing their own vibrational gap, every single time. No exceptions.” —Abraham
If you have been experiencing a vibrational gap because you’ve been looking outside yourself for approval rather than staying connected to your Inner Being, it’s time to let all that go.
It’s time to care so much about your own vibration that you’re not willing to sacrifice or compromise your vibration in order to have others agree with you or like you or approve of you.
“You must release your desire for the approval of others, because as long as you are letting the approval of others affect you, you will always be in an out of balance situation, because they are all wanting something different from you.” —Abraham
When you release your desire for the approval of others, insecurity goes away. Your vibration naturally lifts.
When nurturing your own vibration and being in alignment is your #1 priority—not what others believe or think about you—then you are free. When your alignment is unconditional, you no longer are jockeying to get others to think like you do or worried what they will think about you and your beliefs.
I encourage you to nurture your own vibration.
- Let others believe what they believe. And don’t make your alignment conditional on others thinking and believing as you do.
- Practice thoughts that raise your own vibration. And don’t concern yourself with what others are thinking and believing.
“We are going to tell you what the secret of the Universe is… Are you ready? Mind your own business.” —Abraham