Let’s start with this: Confusion is an emotion that serves no purpose.
What you attract from the vibration of confusion is not what you want.
And when you allow confusion to linger, it creates momentum. A confused, unclear-in-your-mind, I-can’t-decide, I-don’t-know emotional state takes on a life of its own.
I’ll put it another way: When you indulge in confusion, you add to your confusion.
Repeatedly saying I don’t know what I want or thinking I don’t know how to get what I want is not helpful in getting you to clarity.
Just as the solution is at a different vibration than the problem, so it is for clarity and confusion. You don’t have access to clarity when you are vibrating at confusion.
“… confusion is you not in sync with your Inner Being…” —Abraham
I want to talk about four types of confusion I commonly encounter with my coaching clients, and look at each type through the lens of Law of Attraction.
I want to help you recognize where you might be offering the vibration of confusion—and, more importantly, how you can move toward clarity.
Here are four common types of confusion:
- I don’t know what I want.
- I don’t know how to get what I want.
- I know what I want, but contradict it.
- I don’t have what I want, and make that mean something has gone wrong.
Personally, the second one—I don’t know how to get what I want—used to be a big one for me. That was my go-to type of confusion before my obsession with Law of Attraction.
What about you? Which type of confusion is familiar?
Now take a moment and consider how you feel when you experience confusion.
- You don’t feel good when you don’t know what you want.
- You don’t feel good when you don’t know how to get what you want.
- You don’t feel good when you know what you want but then negate having it.
- And you certainly don’t feel good when you don’t have what you want and make that mean something has gone wrong and you are off track.
My point: Confusion does not feel good.
Let’s ground this in Law of Attraction 101: How you feel is your point of attraction.
When you vibrate confusion, you attract circumstances and conditions that match up. You attract more uncertainty, more doubt. More on the same muddled frequency.
Bottom line: You do not want confusion to be your point of attraction. You do not want to attract circumstances and conditions, people and things that are a match to confusion.
Confusion is a poor point of attraction and feels lousy.
Clarity, on the other hand, feels really good and is an ideal point of attraction.
Clarity is a whole other energy than confusion.
“Clarity is alignment. Clarity is a clear impulse of where to go. Clarity is trusting the path. Clarity is not standing in a wobbly place. Clarity is that momentum that has no resistance, and when you’re in that place of clarity, the feeling what to do next is right there.” —Abraham
Imagine a time when you experienced clarity.
When you have clarity, when you are certain, when you are free of doubt, when you have an inner knowing, you feel good. You feel energized. You feel in the downstream flow of that clarity.
I probably don’t need to spend a lot of time making a case for clarity over confusion. I don’t think any of us is walking around saying, Oh I really want to be confused. I love living in a state of confusion.
Of course not. But…too many of us are willing—or at least we have been—to offer a vibration of confusion. Too many of us are willing to accept confusion as a normal, natural state.
But it’s not natural. Clarity is what’s natural. Your connection to clarity is natural. And so if you are in a state of confusion, it is because you are disallowing the clarity that is natural to you.
“It is good to feel good. Clarity is your natural state of being.” —Abraham
Let’s dive a little deeper into the four common types of confusion.
Starting with: I don’t know what I want.
- Alma is struggling to decide about making a career change. She says, I don’t know if I have what it takes to start over.
- Jada can’t decide if she’s in the right relationship. She says, I don’t know if this is the person I’m meant to be with.
You may have a vision board with crystal clear desires reflected on it…or you may not know exactly what it is you are wanting to manifest. Perhaps there is an area of your life where you are vibrating at confusion rather than clarity.
Now, sometimes the so-called confusion of I don’t know what I want is really masking a knowing accompanied by a whole lot of doubt and a slew of limiting beliefs. It has become easier to say I don’t know what I want rather than I know exactly what I want, but am afraid I don’t have what it takes to create it.
You might want to check in with any confusion you’ve been experiencing along the lines of I don’t know what I want and make sure it’s not I do know, but I’m filled with doubt and disbelief.
If you really don’t know what you want, I’ve found it very helpful to let the Universe know that you want to know. You can say, very simply: I want to know what I want.
Then start paying attention. Watch what starts to show up, what is revealed, what becomes clear. Start noticing and appreciating the clarity.
Even if you don’t know the particulars of what you want—yet—you do know how you want to feel. So that’s a beautiful place to start.
“Keep your focus on how you want to feel and let the Universe fill in the details.” —Abraham
I’ll bet if I asked you how you want to feel, you would have complete and utter clarity. So start there. And as you focus on aligning with those desired feelings, the Universe will fill in the details.
You can also start with what you don’t want.
“Always, when you know what you don’t want, that’s when the rocket of desire is born of what you do want.” —Abraham
And so each time, as you know what you don’t want, remember what that really means. Don’t lose sight of the gift available to you when you know what you don’t want. Because in that moment there is no confusion, only clarity. The clarity of what you do want.
Let’s move on to the second type of confusion: I don’t know how to get what I want.
I want you to hear this loud and clear: Focusing on how when you don’t know how causes confusion.
“When you talk about what you want and why you want it, there’s usually less resistance within you than when you talk about what you want and how you’re going to get it. When you pose questions you don’t have answers for, like how, where, when, who, it sets up a contradictory vibration that slows everything down.” —Abraham
That contradictory vibration is confusion.
Your job is not to figure out how. That’s a relief, right?! Because right away you can move away from confusion and toward clarity if it’s not your job to figure out how to get what you want.
Instead, your job is to be in vibrational alignment with your desire.
- Your job is to get in alignment and take inspired action.
- Your job is to listen to your intuition and be open to what the Universe is flowing to you.
Your job is to manage your mind, tend to your point of attraction, find the feeling-place of what you want, and allow it to unfold.
You can be curious about the how, but don’t put your emphasis there.
“Focus on the essence of what you want. This opens the path to clarity. If you can find general clarity, LoA will bring you specific clarity.” —Abraham
If you have been in a state of confusion because you’ve been focused on how, I encourage you to release the resistance of that vibration.
Embrace what you want, and be absolutely OK with not knowing how—not knowing the exact steps and process. Stay in the what and why—what you want and why you want it. That’s where you’ll find the Universe working its magic.
Let’s move on to the third type of confusion is: I know what I want, but contradict it.
Here’s what many of us do. We start out thinking or talking about what we are wanting. We might even get some momentum and clarity in that direction, which feels so good.
But then what do we do?
We negate what we want with “but”. We doubt ourselves. Our limiting beliefs come into play.
We introduce confusion in our vibration with “but”. Here are some examples:
- I want a healthy relationship, but I don’t know if he will ever change.
- I really want a long-term partner, but all my past relationships have been short-lived.
- I want to meet someone, but it’s hard where I live.
I want this, but that.
What follows “but” negates your desire with all the reasons it won’t happen or can’t happen. What follows “but” contradicts your desire by shifting your focus in opposition to what you want.
- When you know what you want and focus there, there is clarity.
- When you contradict what you want, there is confusion.
“When you don’t have contradiction in your thoughts, you have clarity.” —Abraham
Clarity is lost when you contradict your own desire—when you think about what you want and then negate it with doubt and disbelief.
“Clarity means attention to something without contradicting it.” —Abraham
This means you can have clarity right now, right this instant, if you give your attention to what you want and don’t contradict what you want with what you don’t want.
The minute you veer your focus off the path of what is wanted, you start contradicting your desire. And when you do this, you introduce confusion into the mix.
Clarity, which is the opposite of confusion, is when you give your attention to something purely.
Every time you shift your focus and attention from what you want to what you don’t want, you are splitting the flow of your energy.
I really want to emphasize: Contradicting your own desire results in all kinds of confusion in the vibration you offer. It’s as if you’re doing a two-step dance, I want this, but it’s not possible. I want that, but it won’t happen. I want this, but doubt. I want that, but don’t believe.
The only way the Universe can respond to your mixed vibration is with a mixed bag of manifestations.
“When you no longer split your flow of energy with contradictory thoughts, you will know your power.” —Abraham
Because, believe me, there is power in clarity.
And now to the fourth type of confusion: I don’t have what I want, and make that mean something has gone wrong.
“Don’t let any place that you are standing frighten you. All it is, is a byproduct of some Energy alignment, which only gives you stronger clarity about what you want — and, most importantly, greater sensitivity about whether you’re in a receiving mode or locked off of it.” —Abraham
When you look around and what you want has not yet manifested—you are single and want to be in a relationship, you are renting and want to own a home, you are working at a job you don’t like and want a fulfilling job you love, you are looking at a pile of bills and want financial abundance—when where you are standing is not where you want to be, Abraham says that is offering you even stronger clarity about what you want.
Most of us experience contrast in a much more emotionally charged way. We let the place we are standing frighten us or disappoint us or anger us or frustrate us or overwhelm us.
But Abraham is saying there is so much clarity in that moment of contrast—if you choose to turn toward the clarity.
Where you are standing is just the byproduct of Energy alignment. Period. Period. Period.
We so often complicate it and make it mean a thousand other things. So let me say it again: Where you are standing is the byproduct, the side effect, the consequence of Energy alignment.
What if you look at where you are standing simply as feedback about whether you are in receiving mode?
- Nothing has gone wrong, you’re just getting feedback.
- You’re not off track, you’re just getting feedback.
When you don’t have what you want and you make that mean you are off track or something has gone wrong, you’re not understanding the value of contrast.
“When you understand the value of contrast, then you don’t leave your Inner Being who always understands the value of contrast. So then contrast doesn’t feel like negative emotion, it doesn’t feel like defeat—it feels like opportunity. It doesn’t feel like confusion, it feels like clarity. It doesn’t feel like something’s gone wrong, it feels like everything is going right.” —Abraham
When you haven’t yet manifested what you want, don’t make that feel like confusion. Make that feel like clarity.
Because the contrast you are experiencing is clarifying your preferences and helping you launch rockets of desire. The contrast is helping you focus, which is crucial for clarity.
“What if your own Inner Being is guiding you to contrast for the benefit of the clarity it will bring?” —Abraham
Isn’t that an uplifting way to look at contrast? Wherever you are standing right now in relation to what you want, nothing has gone wrong and you aren’t off track.
I encourage you to lean into clarity rather than confusion. Nothing you want is along the pathway of confusion. Align your energy with clarity. Clarity will take you where you want to go.
As you focus on aligning your energy with what you do want, when you close the vibrational gap between where you are now standing and what you are wanting to manifest, when you fully get in receiving mode—boom!—what you want manifests in your life experience.
“You want to be in this body so that the life that surrounds you can inspire within you an individual focus of what your interest is so that you take from the chaos of All That Is some feeling of clarity about what feels good to you.” —Abraham
Notice Abraham acknowledges the “chaos of All That Is”. Meaning there is endless variety to life and people who think this way and that way and do things this way and that way. Which means there are so many ways you can think and feel and act.
There is confusion in that chaos.
And you will feel confusion in the midst of the chaos of All That Is if you don’t focus on what feels good to you. The way out of confusion, the way to steer clear of confusion is the individual focus Abraham describes.
Let the great variety of life inspire within you an individual focus of what your interest is so you can tap into the feeling of clarity about what feels good to you.
So often we want to complicate this. We want to say that’s not the pathway from confusion to clarity. That it won’t work or is selfish. That is must be more complicated than that or harder.
But it’s really not.
I want you to move with ease from confusion to clarity.
In fact, I don’t want you to just be free of confusion. I want you to be full of clarity.
Let the contrast of life inspire a focus within you. And as always with Law of Attraction, let your emotions guide you to clarity. It’s time to tap into that feeling of clarity about what feels good to you.
“Clarity is the manifestation of alignment. Clarity is a wonderful feeling, the result of a lot of momentum with no resistance.” —Abraham