Too often we compromise the vibration we are offering because we are worried about others or wanting something different for them.
- You worry about the toll stress at work is taking on your husband.
- You want things to be better for your sister and get upset when she doesn’t follow your advice about how to improve her marriage.
- You micromanage your kids because you feel anxious about their choices.
- You think your best friend would be better off if she stopped spending so freely and your judgment about her spending isn’t feeling good to you.
These are examples of throwing off your own vibration because of a focus on someone else. Of actually getting out of alignment under the guise of wanting alignment for someone else. That’s pretty mixed up, right?
Yet we often do just that. We compromise our own alignment by wanting others to show up differently, by thinking we know what’s best for someone else.
“Trust that they’re making their lives work in the way that they’re making their lives work. And just teach through the power of your example.” —Abraham
With those two simple sentences, Abraham has offered us a pathway to vibrational freedom. Are you trusting and teaching?
Let’s start with trusting.
“Trust that they’re making their lives work in the way that they’re making their lives work.”
I have a little saying I bring to mind to remind me of this.
When I start thinking I know what’s best for someone else—maybe a work situation Hans is dealing with or a health situation of a family member—when I I start thinking I know what the other person should be doing, how they should be showing up, the action they should take, what they should be thinking or feeling… Whenever I go down that path with my thoughts, I remind myself: Everyone is on their own journey.
What this signals for me is to take my focus off their business and tend to my own alignment. Because invariably what happens when I’m thinking I know what’s best for them, my own alignment gets wonky. As in, I am no longer in a state of alignment.
Instead, I’m feeling worried about their situation. Or irritated they’re slow to take my advice. I’m feeling frustrated things aren’t different. Or afraid about an outcome. I’m feeling angry this still isn’t resolved. Or sad about the situation.
Can you see how I’ve left my own alignment if I am feeling worry or irritation, if I’m feeling frustration or anger or fear or sadness? I’m not in alignment!
I’m using the other person’s life journey as a reason to lose my own alignment, which means Law of Attraction is now responding to the low vibe I’m offering.
I’m creating in my own experience, and so when I’m worried about someone else, worry is the vibration I’m offering. Of course, worry isn’t helping the other person and it’s actually hurting me in the sense that now LoA will respond in my life with circumstances and conditions, people and events, situations and things that match my vibration of worry.
Not only am I not helping the other person with my worry thoughts, but I’m modeling misalignment. Hey, here’s out to be out of alignment—put your nose into other people’s business, think you know what’s best for them, forget they are on their own journey, feel some flavor of bad. Boom! Welcome to misalignment!
When you trust others are making their lives work in the way they are making their lives work, when you trust they are on their own journey, you release all that friction and resistance from your own vibration. When you have this perspective on others you offer and exude a kind of grace.
Moving on to teaching, Abraham says: “And just teach through the power of your example.”
Now, let’s be clear about what this really means.
This isn’t about teaching others the specifics of how they should show up in their lives. It’s not sharing your unwritten manual on how to have a good marriage or how to eat or dress or behave. It isn’t about teaching others how they need to think or feel or behave.
This is about the power of your example of alignment.
“You want to teach through the clarity of your example. You want to teach through the clarity of your own alignment….You want to demonstrate the Law of Attraction’s response to your consistent offering.” —Abraham
Here’s how I think about teaching through the power of your example. This is not about doling out unsolicited—or even solicited advice—to others. It’s not about telling others what they should and shouldn’t be doing. It’s not putting your nose in the business of others.
Instead, teaching through the power of your example is about showing up in your life in such a way that you model alignment, you model a focus on positive aspects and a deep appreciation practice, you model the importance of feeling good and reaching for better-feeling thoughts, you model an understanding that circumstances are neutral and your commitment to deliberate creation.
When you model all this, you will also be demonstrating the Law of Attraction’s response to your consistent offering of alignment. In other words, you will be modeling how to manifest what is wanted with ease.
Let me say that in a slightly different way: You are teaching through the power of your example. I don’t mean your example of what kind of car to drive or how to vote. I don’t mean your example of how to dress or raise your kids. I don’t mean your example of morality or good behavior.
What I mean—and this is everything—is to teach through the power of your example of alignment.
- You being in alignment is a powerful example of the Law of Attraction at work.
- You being in alignment is a powerful example of how to choose thoughts that feel good when you think them.
- You being in alignment is a powerful example of prioritizing feeling good.
This is not about preaching to others that LoA is the way to live.
“Since words don’t teach you will be teaching through the clarity of your example.” —Abraham
Sure, if someone is interested in knowing how you’re getting what you’re getting, why you so often seem to be feeling good, why you choose to see the glass half full, then by all means when they ask, share your story.
But this is not about leading with your story. It’s not about leading with the energy of I’m going to teach others because I want them to have this too. No, it’s about teaching through the power of your example of alignment.
Lead with your alignment. Model alignment. Show up for your life in alignment.
Show up at work in alignment. Show up at the family reunion in alignment. Show up running errands in alignment. Show up at the doctor appointment in alignment. Show up in your conversations in alignment.
Are you trusting and teaching?
- Are you trusting others are making their lives work in the way that they’re making their lives work?
- Are you teaching through the power of your example of alignment?
I imagine most of us answer these two questions knowing we have an opportunity.
Do you an opportunity to embrace Everyone is on their own journey. What would be the payoff for your own vibration? What would this mean in terms of advice-giving and focusing on what others are doing?
Do you have an opportunity to teach through the power of your example of alignment? What would this opportunity offer you in terms of prioritizing and emphasizing and strengthening your own alignment?