What if I were to say that you are always at the crossroads; you are always at a point at which a crucial decision is going to be made, and that crucial decision will have far-reaching consequences.
Wow, that sounds pretty important, doesn’t it?
A couple years into my LoA journey, I started really embracing this idea of being at the crossroads—moment by moment, hour by hour, day by day. And for me, one the easiest way to conceptualize and really understand this crossroad I’m at is to imagine signposts.
So imagine you are literally at a crossroad—one road ventures to the right and the other road ventures to the left. Each road has a sign signaling what you’re going to encounter, where you’re going to end up.
And the signposts read: Optimism—that way. Pessimism—the other way.
You are the crossroads—right now—of optimism or pessimism.
Optimism is mindset of hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something.
Pessimism is also a mindset, a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen; pessimism is a lack of hope or confidence in the future.
You are always headed in one direction or the other with your thoughts. Every thought has a quality of either optimism or pessimism to it.
- When I think about calling the utility company to sort out an error with my bill, my thoughts about this call reflect either optimism or pessimism.
- When you and your spouse have a big conversation about your finances, your thoughts reflect either optimism or pessimism.
- When you wake up in the morning, your mindset is either in the direction of optimism or pessimism.
Optimism is #5 on the emotional scale. It’s a high vibe emotion that attracts and creates circumstance and conditions that are a vibrational match.
Optimism is an exceptional vibration from which to attract what pleases you.
“There are all kinds of ways for things to come to you, but you have to be ready, to be ready, to be ready. There are so many opportunities that are missed because your pessimism makes you miss them. And your optimism makes you find them.” —Abraham
Opportunities are always there. The Universe is abundant.
But when you are in a mindset of pessimism, when you are believing the worst will happen, when you are steeling yourself for the disappointment to come, for things not working out, for not getting what you want—when you are in that energy of pessimism, you miss the opportunities. You don’t notice the opening, you don’t connect the dots, you have your head down and simply don’t see the golden opportunity.
The Universe doesn’t reward pessimism. Not because you’re being punished if you’re pessimistic, but because of how Law of Attraction works—like attracts like. You cannot attract what you want from the energy of pessimism.
The lack of hope and confidence that is pessimism only attracts more circumstances and conditions that match the outlook of negativity, doom and the gloom, doubt.
I know you don’t want to live circumstances and conditions that reflect negativity and doubt and doom and gloom. No one does!
Well, the only way then is to not offer that energy as your vibration.
When you are standing at the crossroads of optimism and pessimism, it matters which road you go down with your thoughts. It’s going to matter in terms of how you feel. Optimism feels good. Pessimism doesn’t.
And then, of course, it matters in terms of what you manifest.
- Optimism is a vibration that attracts people and events, situations and things of a like energy.
- Pessimism is also a vibration, one that attracts circumstances and conditions of a similar frequency.
“There’s an expression in the physical environment that you use to entertain each other (it doesn’t serve you very well) that says, ‘I worry that I’ll go down to the dock, and that my ship will have already come and gone. I’ll miss my boat.’ And we say, another boat, another boat, another boat. You have no idea how many boats are coming to your dock. It’s a steady stream, and it doesn’t matter how many of them you’ve missed. The only thing that matters is what you are doing right now in your vibration. And you can tell what you’re doing right now in your vibration by the way you feel.” —Abraham
I love this for so many reasons. I often have that little mantra going in my head: Another boat, another boat, there’s always another boat.
This also really emphasizes that it doesn’t matter how you’ve been in the past. Perhaps you’ve been an all-out pessimist. You’re mindset has been rooted in the glass being half empty. But it doesn’t matter how you’ve been.
And it doesn’t matter what’s shown up to this point in your life experience. It doesn’t matter if there have been missed opportunities. It doesn’t matter how many proverbial boats you’ve missed up to this point in your life.
What matters is what you do right now with your vibration. This is a new moment. Not even just a new day, but a new present moment, right here, right now.
Optimism, and that wonderful companion feeling of positive expectation, is what you want to choose.
And it is a choice. You have the choice of thought. You are at the crossroads right now of Optimism and Pessimism and you get to choose which of those roads you’ll go down with your next thought, and your next.
“The Universe has to give you what you expect and always does, but you have to train yourself into positive expectation.” —Abraham
Let’s be reminded of the very definition of pessimism which is a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen. That is, of course, the very opposite of positive expectation.
Thoughts become things. Like attracts like.
Do you want to live a life experience that reflects positive expectation or do you want to live a life experience that reflects the worst that could happen?
It seems a silly question because no one is going to raise their hand for that second option. Oh, yes please give me a life experience that reflects my worst fears, my greatest worries, my strongest lack of confidence and belief in the future.
No one intentionally chooses that, and yet many of us do choose to think the pessimistic thought rather than the optimistic one. We choose the worry of what will or won’t happen rather than the positive expectation and excited anticipation for what’s coming.
“The Universe is abundant with everything that you want. It’s not testing you. It’s benevolently providing for you. But you are the orchestrater. You are the definer, and you do it through your joyous anticipation. If there is an emotion that you are wanting to foster that would serve you very, very well, it is positive expectation. It is excited anticipation.” —Abraham
So let me ask you: What is the feeling place of your expectations?
It’s a juicy question and it tells you so much about your manifesting practice. It reveals so much about what is showing up for you.
There is a feeling place to your expectations. What you expect—good or bad, wanted or unwanted—what you expect causes you to feel.
- When you expect something good and wanted, you feel some flavor of good.
- When you expect something bad and unwanted, you feel some flavor of bad.
Your feeling is your vibration, to which Law of Attraction responds.
What is the feeling place of your expectations? Are you expecting what you want? Are you expecting good things? Are you expecting abundance and well-being and joy?
Or are you expecting the worst? Are you expecting to be disappointed because you don’t get what you want? Are you expecting the other shoe to drop? Are you expecting your boat to have already left the dock?
“We’re asking you to trust in the Well-being. In optimism there is magic. In pessimism there is nothing. In positive expectation there is thrill and success. In pessimism or awareness of what is not wanted, there is nothing. What you’re wanting to do is redefine your relationship with the Stream.” —Abraham
I’ve offered one way you may be able to redefine or refine your relationship with the Stream—and that is this concept of being at the crossroads.
That with every thought you choose to think you can head down the road of optimism and all the wonderful places that leads—or you can head down the road of pessimism, and that will certainly take you somewhere, but it will not be pleasing to you.
The good news is, as Abraham reminds us: “As you gradually train your own thoughts into those of positive expectation, as you align with thoughts of worthiness and Well-Being, as you align with your true power by seeking good-feeling thoughts—you will no longer offer resistance to your own abundance.” —Abraham
Choose optimism. Choose to think the optimistic thought. Start practicing. You won’t be perfect, and you don’t have to be. Simply keep choosing to orient yourself and your thoughts in the direction of optimism and positive expectation.
