Start, Stop & Change: resistance

How often do you have a new desire for something you want to manifest and feel really excited…only to shift rather quickly to thinking about how you are going to get what you want and feel a whole let less excited?

Does that sound familiar?

Instead of excitement and positive expectation about your new desire, you start to feel friction and doubt. You start to feel confusion because you are unsure how it will happen or when it will happen or what you need to do.

“When you talk about what you want and why you want it, there’s usually less resistance within you than when you talk about what you want and how you’re going to get it. When you pose questions you don’t have answers for, like how, where, when, who, it sets up a contradictory vibration that slows everything down.” —Abraham

That contradictory vibration, that resistance, is what many of us are experiencing when we have a desire.

Here’s what this might look like:

  • Abigail wants to buy a rental property as a second source of income. Immediately her question is: Where should I look? And because Abigail isn’t sure, she starts to worry about the risk of picking the wrong location. She is contradicting her desire and creating resistance with the vibration of worry.
  • Cheryl wants to make more money at work. Immediately her question is: How will I make that happen? And because she’s not sure, Cheryl starts to doubt whether it’s realistic to earn more. She is contradicting her desire and creating resistance with the vibration of doubt.
  • Lana wants to hire a replacement for someone she had to let go in her business. Immediately her question is: How will I make sure to find the right person this time? And because Lana is unsure, she starts to feel insecure and discouraged. She is contradicting her desire and creating resistance with the vibration of insecurity and discouragement.

These examples of resistance are all too common.

I would imagine you’ve done this too. And when you do this—when you contradict your own desire—rather than excitement about all the possibilities for how your desire can come to you, those unanswered questions create resistance in you.

Think about the phrase “create resistance”. When you are posing questions for which you don’t have answers, you are creating resistance.

One definition of resistance is unwillingness to accept. So let’s connect the dots: When you pose questions about what you want for which you don’t have answers, you are unwilling to accept what you want.

You might be thinking, Now hold on, Jennifer. Why on earth would I be unwilling to accept the very thing I desire? That’s sure not what I mean to be doing.

I know that’s not what you mean to be doing when you have a desire and then immediately go to: How will it happen? When will it happen? Where? Who? What do I do to make it happen?

But asking questions for which you don’t have answers and creating friction in your vibration is the very definition of resistance.

I’ll give you another example. One of my clients wants to manifest a relationship. Rather than stay in that energy of pure desire and positive emotion, rather than think thoughts that allow her to feel excitement and positive expectation, she almost immediately shifts her thoughts to a bunch of questions for which she does not have answers.

  • How will I meet him with the pandemic going on?
  • Should I be on Tinder? Or maybe some other app?
  • Should I be on the dating apps at all?
  • When will it happen? When will I meet him?
  • What do I need to do to make it happen?
  • Where will I meet him?

Do you see how my client left her pure desire and went into the mechanics of how she would get what she wants? Do you see how she asked questions that didn’t cause her to feel positive emotion, but rather ones that created negative emotion in her?

Do you see how she’s getting in the way of the Universe? Because that’s exactly what is happening.

Many of us are not practiced in launching a rocket of desire and then truly turning that desire over to the Universe.

Instead, many of us are used to taking a very manual approach to try to make what we want happen.

We have a desire and then we get into the nitty gritty details of the project plan. Here’s what needs to happen. Here’s who needs to do what. Here’s the timeline. Here’s how I get what I want.

Hey, if that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. I can certainly relate. That used to be the only way I knew to try to get what I wanted—whether that be achieve a goal or acquire a shiny penny.

Before my obsession with all things Law of Attraction, when I wanted something I immediately went to questions of how, where, when, who.

I thought if I could just be smart enough and strategic enough to figure out the answers to all those questions, then I could get what I wanted.

I thought I needed to know the how from Point A to Point Z to get what I wanted. I thought I needed to figure out all the steps and resources, the people and process, the who, what, when, where, and how of it all.

Back then, I forced things. I pushed. I efforted. My underlying belief was that I need to make what I wanted happen.

Often, in trying to figure out the answers to all those questions, I lost sight of my why—why I wanted what I wanted.

I quickly got bogged down in the how and often lost the joy of pure desire.

“Unfortunately, many people think that the uncomfortable feeling of wanting something they do not expect to experience is what the feeling of desire is; they no longer recognize the feeling of pure desire as that fresh, eager feeling of expectancy that they knew when they were younger. The feeling of pure desire is always delicious, as it represents the vibrations that are stretched out before you, into your unseen future, preparing the way for the law of attraction to match things up on your behalf.” —Abraham

The me today, through the lens of Law of Attraction, knows anything and everything I want is because I think I will feel better in the having of it. Now I enjoy the feeling of pure desire and all that delicious expectancy.

Today I know feeling good is the pathway to what I want. Asking questions for which I didn’t have answers only creates resistance, only creates a vibrational gap between me and what I want to manifest.

The last thing you want to do is create resistance.

“When people ask us how long does it take for something to manifest, we say, ‘It takes as long as it takes you to release the resistance. Could be 30 years, could be 40 years, could be 50 years, could be a week. Could be tomorrow afternoon.” —Abraham

Releasing resistance is the key.

This means…

  • Not focusing on the project plan when doing so causes you to feel overwhelment.
  • Not focusing on how when how fills you with doubt and insecurity.
  • Not asking how, where, when, who when asking those questions creates a wobble in your vibration.

“The entire Universe is conspiring to give you everything that you want.” —Abraham

You either believe that statement or you don’t.

I happen to believe the Universe is conspiring to give me everything that I want. That belief feels good. And since it feels good to believe the Universe is conspiring to give me everything I want, I know that belief serves me.

And then what do you suppose my belief creates?

It creates trust.

Trust in the Universe to do the heavy lifting. Trust in the Universe to point the way. Trust in my role and responsibility to feel good, to follow alignment, to take inspired action, but not to make things happen.

“Delegate it to the manager. You have this really good staff that will take care of everything for you. You just have to delegate it—and trust it.” —Abraham

I invite you to become aware of where you stand in relation to delegating what you want.

  • Are you launching a rocket of desire and then getting in receiving mode for what you want?
  • Or are you launching a rocket of desire and then trying to make what you want happen.

Think about the difference.

If you launch a rocket of desire and turn it over to the Universe, then you don’t need to question how, how, how? When you launch a rocket of desire and turn that desire over to the Universe, your work is to get in receiving mode.

Your work is to get in alignment. Your work is to feel good. Your work is to release resistance. Your work is to reach for the relief of better-feeling thoughts. Your work is to head downstream. Your work is to take the path of least resistance. Your work is to enjoy the journey.

Your work is not to figure out how to get what you want in an old-school sense. I’ve just told you how to get what you want—by being in receiving mode for what you want. That is the HOW.

“The Universe knows the perfect timing for all those things you want and will find, through the crack of least resistance, the best way to deliver it to you.” —Abraham

The Universe knows the best way. Which means you are off the hook! Isn’t that great news? Isn’t that a relief?

You can get out of the way with all those questions for which you don’t have answers for. You can get out of the way with all your focus on how it will happen and when it will happen, and simply let the Universe find, through the crack of least resistance, the best way to deliver what you want to you.

The crack of least resistance is where the Universe gets in to work its considerable magic. Thinking about what you want in a way that feels good is the path of least resistance.

Now, I want to be very clear: Questions in and of themselves are not good or bad.

Talking about how and when what you want will manifest is not good or bad.

What matters is how you feel. What matters is whether you offering resistance to what you want with your questions and conversations about your desire.

There is nothing wrong with asking questions related to what you want that feel fun and expansive to ask. For instance, I love daydreaming about something I want to manifest and feeling positive expectation and joy of all the different ways it could come to me.

How will what I want manifest? Oh, what fun…it could come this way or that way or this entirely other, unexpected way.

I’m not asking questions of how, when, where, who in a way that creates resistance because I don’t know the answer. Instead, I’m asking those questions in a way that feels fun and takes pleasure in the unfolding. I’m daydreaming about the how from an energy of marveling at the adventure I’m on as the Universe delivers to me what I want.

“Trying harder makes the resistance more. It’s letting go of the oars that makes it less. It’s trusting the process. It’s trusting the stream. It’s trusting that you have an inner being that is calling you toward it.” —Abraham

You know the “Keep calm” slogan you see on signs and t-shirts?

Like “Keep calm and carry on.” Well, the other day I saw one that said, “Keep calm and let the Universe take care of it.”

That is what you want to do! Delegate what you want to the Universal Manager.

Perhaps I would even change the slogan a bit.

Have fun and let the Universe take care of it. Smile and let the Universe take care of it. Take a nap and let the Universe take care of it. Love and let the Universe take care of it. Enjoy the unfolding and let the Universe take care of it. Appreciate and let the Universe take care of it.

“In the vibration of appreciation, all things come to you. You don’t have to make anything happen. From what you are living, amplifying the things you appreciate so that appreciation is the dominate vibration you are offering…and then only those things that are a vibrational match to that can come to you. Then sit back and know, ‘You ain’t seen nothing yet!'” —Abraham

  • Are you launching a rocket of desire and then delegating its fulfillment and delivery to the Universe? Knowing that your only job is to tend to your vibration, to feel good, to go downstream, to follow the signs and listen to your intuition, to take inspired action, to enjoy the journey, the unfolding?
  • Or, are you launching a rocket of desire and then asking how, how, how will it happen? When, when, when will it happen? And because your answer is, I don’t know, you start to feel the negative emotion of resistance. You start to struggle with your desire. You contract your own desire.

Asking questions for which you don’t have answers in a way that contradicts your desire is decidedly upstream.

“There are so many things that you have been taught to believe that are counter to the powerful Laws of the Universe that it is difficult for you to think your way out. And that is the reason that we present this path of much less resistance. We want you to breathe rather than try, to relax rather than offer effort, to smile rather than struggle, to be rather than do. For your true power is experienced only from inside the Vortex.” —Abraham

I invite you to stop asking questions for which you don’t have answers. Stop focusing on and worrying about how.

Instead, relax, breathe, smile, be. Take the path of least resistance. Trust the Universe to deliver.

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