Law of Attraction: myths

While there are many false beliefs about Law of Attraction, I’m going to focus on seven myths I hear frequently.

Myth #1: Law of Attraction only works for some people.

Or a variation on this myth would be: Law of Attraction didn’t work for me.

OK, so here’s the thing: Law of Attraction is working all the time—for everyone, whether you know about it, whether you believe it.

Law of Attraction is working for you because you are, indeed, creating your reality. Now, you may not be creating the reality you really want, but you are creating it nonetheless.

But here are some common scenarios that can make it seem like the Law of Attraction isn’t working. In other words, these are things you might be doing that are getting in the way of LoA.

  • You “do” Law of Attraction for a few minutes each day with your morning alignment routine, but then go out into the world and feel disappointed, worried, or frustrated.
  • You complain about your husband, your health, your work, but don’t make the connection between the low-vibe energy of complaint and your manifestations.
  • You constantly doubt your ability to create what you want or your worthiness in deserving what you want.
    You hold onto beliefs that are in opposition to what you want—and yet expect what you want to manifest anyway.
  • You rely on external circumstances to feel good.
  • You are waiting to feel the way you want to feel. You’re waiting to feel successful when you get the promotion, waiting to be happy when you get the relationship, waiting to be excited when you get the house. But all that waiting and relying on circumstances creates friction in your vibration and actually keeps you from having what you want.

Do any of those scenarios sound familiar? If so, that’s very likely what’s getting in the way of Law of Attraction “working” in your life the way you want it to.

“You are joy, looking for a way to express.” —Abraham

Let go of the myth LoA doesn’t work for you. Instead, start expressing joy and creating a life you love.

Myth #2: All you have to do is think about what you want and it will manifest.

Law of Attraction is not responding to the words you say or even the thoughts you think. It’s responding to your vibration.

The other day a client shared with me that her vision board makes her sad when she looks at it. Instead of being filled with positive expectation, she’s sad the things she wants have not yet manifested.

Well, the Law of Attraction is responding to how she feels when she looks at her vision board. So what is she attracting? By feeling sad and disappointed when she looks at what she wants, she’s attracting more into her life to be sad and disappointed about.

It’s not enough to think about what you want and ask for what you want. Yes, that’s an important part of creation, but in many ways it’s the easy part that just happens naturally. The contrast of life causes you to think about what you want and ask for things.

But for what you want to actually manifest, you have to be in receiving mode. Which means lining up with the feeling state of what you want. In other words, you have to feel now how you’ll feel when you get what you want.

If you will feel excitement and appreciation when what you want manifests, then feel excited and appreciative now. That’s the way Law of Attraction works.

Don’t put the outcome before the feeling. It’s not enough to think about what you want.

You have to feel as if you already have it. You have to lower resistance, which often comes in the form of doubt or impatience.

You have to allow your manifestation. You do this by being intentional about how you think about what you want, which then creates the feelings that will allow the manifestation.

“The Art of Allowing says, ‘I’ve created it. It’s coming to me. It wants me. I want it. I will find a way to allow it. And the path to allowing what I want is the path of happiness, and joy, and feeling good.” —Abraham

You can’t plaster on a happy face, say all the right words, but feel miserable inside. It’s the feeling LoA is responding to. In that sense, you can’t fool the Law of Attraction.

To manifest what you want, it really is about getting to the feeling-place inside. It’s about moving up the emotional scale so you can attract what you want into your life.

“If you want it and expect it, it will be yours very soon.” —Abraham

Here’s what I bet: If you were fully expecting to receive what you want, you’d feel pretty wonderful right now. So go ahead and feel that way—right now.

Myth #3: You don’t have to take action.

A false belief that really gets in the way of being a deliberate creator and leveraging Law of Attraction to your advantage is about action.

It’s a myth that all you need to do is think about what you want or maybe create a vision board—and voila!—it’s yours.

Or another LoA myth about action is that you shouldn’t take action. That if you are taking action, you’re not really “using” LoA.

OK, so here’s the myth-busting straight scoop: You will take action. In fact, you will love taking action.

But instead of forced or massive action, which is probably what you’re used to, you’ll take inspired action. Action in joy. Action you’re excited and want to take.

  • Inspired action is your intuition whispering: Do this, try that.
  • Inspired action is when you feel called to do something.
  • Inspired action is when you can’t wait because you’re so excited.
  • Inspired action is when you’re in alignment, feeling good, and then take whatever action continues you in the flow of downstream.

“You are action-oriented to your detriment. And we’re not trying to talk you out of action. We’re just wanting to talk you into alignment first, and then inspired action.” —Abraham

Myth #4: If you want to leverage Law of Attraction, you must control every thought.

This myth feels so heavy and disempowering because it would be impossible to monitor every thought. And the good thing is, you don’t have to.

You don’t have to control every thought you have to use the Law of Attraction to your advantage. Instead, you just pay attention to how you feel.

Your Emotional Guidance System—your feelings—will tell you everything you need to know so that you can feed thoughts that serve you and starve those that don’t.

Leveraging Law of Attraction in your life is about honing the skill of choosing your thoughts with intention.

You can certainly develop the skill of noticing how you feel and then being curious about the thought that caused the feeling. Doing this will help you know which thoughts to feed and which ones to starve. In other words, which thoughts to give your attention to and which ones to take your attention from.

Choosing your thoughts with intention is how you manage your mind to your benefit. Otherwise, you have an unmanaged mind. And an unmanaged mind means you’ll attract some of what you want, but also some of what you don’t want.

I invite you to be a deliberate creator so you can attract only what you want and truly create a life you love.

Myth #5: You need other people to believe in Law of Attraction for it to work for you.

This myth says: I can’t make Law of Attraction work in my life unless those around me believe too. Or a variation on this myth is: I need others to be supportive so I can really “do” LoA.

So let’s take a closer look at this myth.

On the one hand, it’s true if you believe it it’s true. So if you believe your husband or all your friends needs to be gung-ho about Law of Attraction for you to make this powerful law of the Universe work in your life, you’re right. Because your thoughts create your reality.

But let’s free ourselves from this very disempowering myth.

  • First, LoA is working in your life 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year.
  • Second, you do not need others to believe anything for you to create your reality.

“The greatest gift you can give yourself is freedom from what others think.” —Abraham

Sure, it might be easier if everyone around you were like-minded and you could all agree and support each other. But that isn’t a requirement for you to create your reality.

Also, as you raise your vibration and improve your point of attraction, you will attract people, circumstances, events, situations, and things of a similar vibration. That means if you are vibrating at the level of optimism and positive expectation, you won’t attract into your life those vibrating at the level of pessimism and doubt.

So as you practice a higher-vibe point of attraction, you may notice the people in your life also raise their vibration or naturally and easily move out of your life experience.

The bottom line is this: Don’t use others as an excuse for not taking responsibility for your point of attraction. It’s a very big myth that you need others to do something or be different to make LoA work for you.

Myth #6: If you think a negative thought, something bad will happen.

This is something that often worries those new to practicing Law of Attraction. Once you realize the creative power of your thoughts, it can be disconcerting when you have negative ones. Oh no, what am I mis-creating?

“In your physical reality, things do not manifest instantly, for there is a wonderful buffer of time that gives you the opportunity to redirect your attention more toward what you do want to experience.” —Abraham

This wonderful buffer of time means if you are thinking a negative thought right now, there’s not an instant corresponding manifestation.

Good thing, right? While we often want our desired manifestations to happen faster, this buffer of time serves us.

So I wouldn’t be too concerned about a random, stray negative thought here or there. But know this: If you continually or frequently indulge in negative thoughts, they will manifest into something you are not wanting.

Myth #7: Law of Attraction is just about shiny pennies.

This one is a combination of myth about Law of Attraction and a criticism of Law of Attraction. Either way, though, this is another disempowering belief.

I hear myth/criticism combo a lot in response to the documentary, The Secret.

So here’s how I see it: Law of Attraction is about so much more than shiny pennies. And by shiny pennies I mean money, the big house, the red sports car, the toys, the things.

You can use LoA to get toys and things, sure, but it’s also for achieving goals and having amazing experiences.

More than anything, the Law of Attraction is about joy. It’s about feeling now how you think you’ll feel when you get what you want. Whether what you want is a shiny penny you want to acquire, a goal you want to achieve, an experience you want to have, or a state of being you want to embody.

“The standard of success in life isn’t the things. It isn’t the money or the stuff. It is absolutely the amount of joy that you feel.” —Abraham

We want things because we think they’ll make us feel better or feel a certain way.

The Law of Attraction is really about taking the shortcut to the emotion you want to feel—the joy, the freedom, the love. The passion, the excitement, the positive expectation.

Go ahead and feel that way now. And, lo and behold, how wonderful that by feeling that way now, you encourage and cause the manifestation.

“Let the emotion be the prize, not the manifestation.” —Abraham

So, yes, LoA is about the shiny pennies, but it’s also about so, so much more!

So which of these myths have you been believing?

  • Myth #1: Law of Attraction only works for some people.
  • Myth #2: All you have to do is think about what you want and it will manifest.
  • Myth #3: You don’t have to take action
  • Myth #4: If you want to leverage Law of Attraction, you must control every thought.
  • Myth #5: You need other people to believe in Law of Attraction for it to work for you.
  • Myth #6: If you think a negative thought, something bad will happen.
  • Myth #7: Law of Attraction is just about shiny pennies.

I’m guessing you would raise your hand that at least one of these myths has been operating in the back of your mind, in the background of your life.

“Only when you have a conscious working knowledge of these (Universal) laws are you able to be the Deliberate Creator of your own life experience.” —Abraham

What would be possible if you did a little myth-busting and believed otherwise?