“There are no happier people on this planet than those who decide that they want something, define what they want, get hold of the feeling of it even before its manifestation and then joyously watch the unfolding as, piece by piece by piece, it begins to unfold. That’s the feeling of your hands in the clay.” —Abraham
Oh, that’s juicy, isn’t it?
Are you one of the people Abraham is describing? Are you a member of the “no happier people on this planet”?
We can probably all benefit from a gentle reminder on how to join this group. I know I certainly can use a reminder now and again.
While it’s really not complicated, so often we do complicate how to be happy. So let’s break it down.
The first part is decide that you want something. That’s easy, right? The contrast of your life experience is always clarifying what you want, what you like, what you want more of.
Contrast is always helping you launch new rockets of desire.
I think it’s interesting Abraham uses the word “decide”—as in decide that you want something. I like how active that is. How the act of deciding you want something means you are an active participant in creation.
For some of my clients, deciding that they want something is a bold new vibration.
For instance, in the past, she might have watered down her desire. I really want X, but I don’t think I can get X, so I’ll settle for Y. That’s not deciding you want something. It’s settling. That is talking yourself out of wanting what you want..
Other clients used to pretend they didn’t want what they wanted. Almost as if to boldly want something would somehow jinx it, but maybe she could sneak up on her desire. I’d better not let on what I really want for fear it doesn’t happen and then I’m disappointed and everyone knows I didn’t get the job or the guy or the raise or whatever.
Do you see how downplaying what you want for fear of not getting it means you are attracting from the energy of not getting it? Of course, that’s going to be very bad for manifesting what you want.
Decide that you want something. Be bold in that decision. As Abraham says, “Desire is the beginning of all new Creation.”
Next, after you’ve decided you want something, is to define what you want.
Now, at first glance you may think these are the same—deciding that you want something and defining what you want. But there is an important distinction that I think is where many of us get tripped up when it comes to manifesting with ease.
Defining what you want is best understood as defining how you want to feel. At the heart of every desire is the desire to feel good.
Everything you desire is because you think you will feel better in the having of it. You think you’ll feel better when your business takes off, when your partner proposes, when you buy the bigger house.
The very moment I’m aware that I have a new desire, I want clarity about how I will feel when that desire manifests. Because it is that feeling I’m really after.
Defining what you want is defining how you want to feel. It’s getting at the essence of your desire.
Too often we chase the package of something in such a way that has us totally disconnected from the feeling of what we want.
Here’s an example. Abby wants her boyfriend to propose. She says, When we’re engaged I’m going to feel so much more secure. I will be optimistic and excited about our future together.
If Abby were to define what she is wanting—what she is really wanting—it is to feel secure with her partner and optimistic and excited about the future. That’s the essence of her desire.
Abby has decided the package that comes in is a proposal from her boyfriend. And, of course, it’s absolutely wonderful for Abby to want what she wants.
But here’s the thing: By not defining what she wants in terms of how she wants to feel, Abby is going to have trouble manifesting.
She’s going to have trouble getting her hands in the clay because of the vibrational gap between how she’s feeling, which is insecure and worried about the future, and how she wants to feel, which is secure and optimistic and excited about the future.
This vibrational gap is the segue to what comes next for getting your hands in the clay.
You’ll recall Abraham says: “to get hold of the feeling of it even before its manifestation.”
To get your hands in the clay, you decide that you want something, you define what you want, and then you get hold of the feeling of it even before its manifestation.
The pre-LoA me used to totally miss the mark on this one. I did not get hold of the feeling of what I wanted before I got what I wanted. Quite the contrary. I was always waiting until I got what I wanted to feel the feeling.
- As in, when I get a certain number of clients, I’ll feel successful. But in the meantime, I don’t feel successful.
- Or when there’s a certain amount of money in the bank, then I’ll feel secure. But in the meantime, I feel anxious or worried.
This is the vibrational gap Abby is experiencing. If she were to get hold of the feeling of what she wants even before its manifestation, she would feel secure now, she would feel optimistic and excited about the future now.
“We want you to savor the manifestation of the emotion. If you can enjoy the manifestation of the emotion, you’ll move fast to the manifestation of what you want.” —Abraham
Savor the manifestation of the emotion. I so love that phrase!
In other words, feel now how you’ll feel then. Feel now how you’ll feel when you get what you want. Don’t wait to feel good. Don’t wait to feel how you want to feel. Don’t postpone joy.
Your emotion is the first manifestation. Imagine the difference in what you manifest into your physical reality when the first manifestation is positive emotion versus negative emotion. I’ll say it again: Your emotion is the first manifestation.
“The manifestation of the stuff follows precisely the manifestation of the emotion. That’s why we want so much for you to make the manifestation of emotion, not just your main event, the only event that you’re focused upon.” —Abraham
This has probably been the most significant shift for me personally since my obsession with all things Law of Attraction.
I am absolutely committed to making the manifestation of emotion the only event on which I’m focused.
Time and time again I’ve experienced when I savor and truly enjoy the manifestation of the emotion, then my desire comes to me—and comes fast. But if get caught up in the I’ll be happy when X, Y, or Z manifests, then X, Y, or Z simply does not appear in my physical reality.
In other words, when you delay feeling how you want to feel, when you delay feeling good until you get what you want, you don’t get what you want.
Abraham puts it very simply, so there can be no misunderstanding on this point: “The manifestation of the stuff follows precisely the manifestation of the emotion.”
I invite you to ask yourself: Are you getting hold of the feeling of what you want even before its manifestation?
If you’ve mastered this, bravo! And if you’re still a work in progress, that’s ok. It means you have an amazing opportunity to manifest with greater ease.
To be one of the happy people, so far you’ve decided that you want something, you’ve defined what you want, you’ve gotten hold of the feeling of your desire even before it manifests, and now Abraham says to “joyously watch the unfolding as, piece by piece by piece, it begins to unfold.”
“Joyously” is the key to what’s happening at this stage of manifesting. Notice Abraham doesn’t say worry as you watch the unfolding of what you want. Or complain about the timing as you watch the unfolding. Or feel doubtful. No, of course not.
This is about enjoying the unfolding.
Here again, my pre-LoA experience was so different from what’s being described. It’s back to I’ll be happy when I get what I want, but in the meantime I’ll feel impatient or anxious or discouraged or some other vibration that is most decidedly not joy.
Are you enjoying the unfolding of what you want? Don’t gloss past this question because it truly is a game changer when it comes to being a deliberate creator.
Think about your desire. And now answer the question: Are you joyously watching the unfolding as piece by piece by piece it begins to unfold?
You might be saying, No, I am not joyously watching anything because nothing is unfolding. That’s the problem. What I want isn’t manifesting, and I’m not enjoying that at all.
If that describes your energy, then you’ve put the proverbial cart before the horse. Tapping into joy allows the manifestation. Tapping into joy is what allows your desire to manifest into your physical reality.
Here’s the thing: It’s only by finding the feeling place of what you want that what you want will manifest.
Too many of us do not feel all that great as we wait for what we want. In fact, it is the waiting that is part of the issue. When you are waiting on what you want to be happy, then you are postponing the joy
What if you were to change this energy of waiting? What if instead you were to delight in noticing the signs of your desire unfolding?
“The entire Universe is conspiring to give you everything that you want.” —Abraham
What if you were to start to notice every positive aspect, every serendipitous happening, every sign the Universe is supporting you and taking you along the path to your desire?
Get your hands in the clay of creating. Be one of the happy people.
- Decide you want something. Be bold in your decision.
- Define what you want. Be clear on the essence—the feeling—of what you’re wanting.
- Get hold of the feeling of it. Feel now how you’ll feel then.
- Joyously watch the unfolding. Enjoy the journey to what you want.