• Do you ask for these 3 kinds of help?

    I find myself asking for three kinds of help. And I’ve learned it’s useful if I’m clear ahead of time about what type of help I’m really after—and to make it clear to the person on the other end of my “ask”. Here are the three types of help I’m usually looking for. How do […]

  • ALERT! ALERT! What you say to yourself matters

    Are you a nice person? Or do you belittle others and make them feel bad about themselves? Do you harp on people’s weaknesses and call them names? Do you make others feel they’re not good enough or acceptable as they are? I’m guessing your answer is, That’s awful! Of course I don’t say and do […]

  • How to get unstuck with one simple question

    I have a question for getting unstuck that works every single time. Without exception. I’ve used it to start and sell a company. I’ve used it to figure out my own style of networking and grow my community. I’ve used it to navigate my father’s illness and establish a new norm in the world without […]

  • How to outlast the honeymoon phase of your big goal

    Big goals often have a honeymoon phase—a period where you’re excited, everything seems possible, and you’re 100% engaged. But then the newness starts to wear off. You don’t feel quite as enthusiastic. Life starts to intrude. You get busy at work. Or your child gets sick. Your calendar fills with activities. Relatives visit. You take […]

  • Mini Mission—Make self-care an attitude

    What’s your approach to self-care? Is self-care an activity or an attitude? When self-care is perceived as disparate activities—do yoga, drink water instead of soda, journal, eat kale, wear sunscreen, meditate—it’s all too easy to get caught up in the business and busyness of life and skip X, Y, Z acts of self-care. Too many […]

  • Top 10 Ways Not To Achieve Your Goal

    Top 10 ways NOT to achieve your goals

    1. Keep your goal a secret. Whatever you do, don’t tell anyone about your goal. That way no one can rally around you with support, resources, and accountability. Keeping your goal a secret also ensures part of you is hidden away. What’s so great about showing up in the world in an authentic way? 2. […]

  • Are you paying the price of inauthenticity?

    Are you paying the price of inauthenticity?

    The other night Hans came across a great quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” He knew the quote would resonate because as an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs I place a premium on authenticity. The quote sparked thoughts […]

  • How to get into action with 5 easy questions

    How to get into action with 5 easy questions

    “Action expresses priorities.” —Gandhi Are you expressing your priorities right now through your actions? You can get into action more easily by asking yourself a few simple questions. But be warned: These questions are a catalyst. Answer them only if you’re prepared to be in action. 1. What are you committed to and why? There’s nothing quite so […]

  • Are you keeping secrets?

    Why are you keeping your goals a secret?

    I have a friend, let’s call her Sally, who won’t share her New Year’s resolutions until months into the year…when she confesses her resolution has fallen by the wayside. Three years ago her New Year’s resolution was to stop complaining. How do I know this? Because it slipped out in a conversation in May when […]

  • 6 questions to ask when your resources are scarce

    When you think about your goals, where is there a gap in your resources? Are you lacking the assets—the things or thoughts, actions or energy—you need? We need resources to accomplish our goals and be the person we want to be. But here’s the thing: Often we complain we don’t have the necessary resources and […]