It’s no fun being addicted to approval
I used to want everyone to like me. And I wanted everyone around me to be happy. More to the point, I was driven to be accepted, to be approved of, to be liked. To be considered a nice person. It wasn’t a pretty picture. Addicted to approval I said yes to client requests that […]
These 6 habits guarantee life is a struggle
Are you crazy busy? Do you tend to complicate things? Find yourself getting stuck in confusion? Are any of those how you get in your own way? Or maybe you’re easily distracted. And struggle with what’s a priority—and what’s not. Even find yourself putting productivity ahead of people. If any of these sound familiar, read […]
A daily dose of saying no will make you happier
Have you said no today? If not, why not? We have to start saying no if we want to be intentional about our lives. Let’s unpack that statement because “intentional about our lives” might sound vague or New Agey. Not that there’s anything wrong with New Agey. But I know phrases like living intentionally and living […]
Warning: Your serenity and sanity are at risk
Are you so overwhelmed that you don’t have the time or energy to do anything about why you’re overwhelmed to begin with? It’s a maddening conundrum, isn’t it? Your To Do list is mostly undone, work has reached its tentacles way beyond an 8-hour day, and life keeps presenting you with unexpected hurdles. Most days […]
No is a complete sentence
Here’s the problem: Saying yes too often and to the wrong things means you end up drained and depleted. Overwhelmed and exhausted. And, truth be told, feeling burdened, put upon, and probably a little resentful. We say yes to be needed, liked, and avoid disappointing others. We say yes out of guilt, out of duty, […]
Learning to say Yes and No with ease
A client recently made a distinction about the type of speaking engagements she accepts. She’s not interested in creating content and traveling to deliver a presentation to grow the knowledge of an audience. Instead, it’s only worth her time if she’s building the skills of audience members. Which means at the end of one of […]
Do you want to keep having what you’re having?
I hear a lot of nos. No, that’s too hard. No, that would be overwhelming. No, I don’t have the energy for that. No, that would take too long. No, I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that. “No” is hard to come back from. It puts the kibosh on what’s possible. Nothing changes if nothing changes. […]