What happens when you say “hard” and “difficult” dozens of times?
I had coffee with a new acquaintance and she used the words “hard” and “difficult” at least three dozen times in a 30-minute period. I know because I started counting after the first few. Holding up a mirror Now, before you think I’m mean-spirited, I started counting because I wanted to give her constructive feedback. […]
Dear Intuition, thanks for always being there
I’ve been writing letters to my intuition. That would have sounded crazy to me even a couple years ago. I used to say I didn’t hear that inner voice. Or maybe I didn’t have one. But I’m realizing my intuition actually has quite a lot to say. If I’m willing to quiet the external chatter […]
Maybe it’s not a lack of willpower…but a missing skill
You’re asked to use software completely unfamiliar to you… You try a complicated new cooking technique… You take on new responsibilities at work outside your expertise…. What happens? You struggle. At least at first. And if you never build the skill or acquire the knowledge you need, you’ll probably continue to struggle. Gap in skills and […]
Pesky tolerations are more costly than you think
Imagine I ask you to name 3 results you want to create in your life. You name them. Then suppose I ask, What might get in the way of achieving those 3 results? Even before you tell me, I know the answer. Let’s try it right now. First, you have do your part and reveal […]
Fear, I know you want to keep me from doing this…
I have a client who doesn’t want to make cold calls for her business because she’s afraid. Afraid of intruding and interrupting. Afraid of stumbling and not sounding confident. Afraid of being rejected. I totally get it. Whenever I do something I’ve never done before, it feels awkward and uncomfortable. I feel awkward and uncomfortable. […]
“Yeah, but” will only get you so far
See if this sounds familiar. You’re confiding in a friend about a problem or dilemma you’re facing. Maybe you’re… Deciding whether to leave a soul-deadening job Struggling to make movement part of your daily life Exhausted from saying “yes” all the time Putting off a much-needed crucial conversation with a colleague Afraid to get back […]
Is it crazy to quit your job when you’re successful?
Remember a few years ago when I quit my job and everyone said I was crazy? Remember that? People said, But you’ve already invested so many years in your field. And, But the money! How are you going to replace a six-figure salary? And then there was this: You want to be WHAT!? A life […]
What 7 questions are on your mind?
There’s nothing better than a good question. You know the kind. A juicy question that starts the wheels turning. One that invites breakthrough thinking and offers newfound clarity. Those are the kind of quality questions I love. The problem is, sometimes we have to wait a long time before someone asks us the kind of […]
Mini mission—Take the next step
There’s something you want. Some goal you want to achieve. Or milestone you want to reach. Maybe it’s launch a business. Or lose 20 pounds. Maybe it’s write that book. Or run a marathon. Maybe it’s take that trip. Or change careers. Maybe it’s declutter and simplify. Or move across country. Whatever your goal, it […]
You’re unhappy with your job, but please don’t do this
Not a week goes by that someone doesn’t pull me aside at a coffee shop to confess they hate their job. I’ve noticed shortly after sharing their discontent, they say some version of I really need to update my resume and start looking. No, no, no. It seems like a good impulse. You’re unhappy with […]