Your life purpose: 43 questions you need to ask yourself
Are you on autopilot, going through the motions, just getting by? Maybe feeling discontent and a little aimless. Are you struggling with your direction and purpose? If so, chances are you have Compass tolerations. Compass tolerations show up when you’re: Not fully engaged in some part of your life Living out of alignment with your […]
I’ve had enough of performing, perfecting, pleasing and proving
Do you know what’s exhausting? Hustling for worthiness. Performing, when you’re not an actor. Perfecting, when your standard means nothing is ever quite good enough. Pleasing, when you’re an approval junkie. Proving, when that little voice whispers, You’re not enough. I’ll bet you know what I’m talking about. Because I’ve yet to meet a woman […]
6 reasons authenticity is the way forward
Life presents us with so many occasions to be stuck and confused. Even feel a little lost sometimes. You’re unhappy in your career, but not sure what to do next. You’re worried about your relationship, but fear looking too closely. You want more meaning in your life, but aren’t sure how to get it. You’re […]
Top 10 ways NOT to achieve your goals
1. Keep your goal a secret. Whatever you do, don’t tell anyone about your goal. That way no one can rally around you with support, resources, and accountability. Keeping your goal a secret also ensures part of you is hidden away. What’s so great about showing up in the world in an authentic way? 2. […]
I haven’t always lived my life by design
I’m going to begin with a kick in the pants. Many people—perhaps even you—spend more time planning their next vacation or home renovation project than they do planning their lives. That just doesn’t make sense to me. I know from firsthand experience intentional living is a line in the sand between half living and a […]
I am vulnerable when …
In the last couple weeks, Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead has come up in conversation a dozen times. Seriously. 12 times. Although most people simply refer to: You know, that book about vulnerability. Several conversations were with coaching clients, which makes sense […]
Are you afraid to rock the boat?
Overheard: “I don’t want to tell him how I really feel. It will rock the boat.” Granted, I have no context here. How she really feels could be about the living room paint color he picked out, who she likes in the upcoming mayoral election, or wanting to have a baby. But my vote is […]
Are you paying the price of inauthenticity?
The other night Hans came across a great quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” He knew the quote would resonate because as an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs I place a premium on authenticity. The quote sparked thoughts […]
It’s time to ask what is out of harmony or in conflict
Are you feeling friction or failing to make progress toward your goals? If so, do a goal doublecheck by asking these harmony and conflict questions. Harmony Are your goals in harmony with each other? Does the achievement of one goal put another in jeopardy? For instance, a client recently had both a promotion at work and […]
Are you putting off a crucial conversation?
Do you need to step outside your comfort zone and have a big conversation or ask a big question? Are you living small as you continue to put off having a crucial conversation? “I’m afraid to talk with my boss about where I’m headed with the company. I don’t think I’m going to like what […]