What to do when your To Do list makes you feel bad
Most of us are too quick to add items to our To Do list. Which means these lists very quickly become a mile long. Overwhelming and unmanageable. De-energizing and undoable. What’s your list like? What about you? If I looked at your To Do list, how many items would I find? Only a handful? Dozens? […]
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You need to read this if you’re a worry-wart
Worry is a slippery thing. On the one hand, it feels like something positive you’re doing. An expression of caring about someone or something. You worry… your recent graduate will have trouble finding a “real” job. your spouse won’t get the promotion at work. your sibling isn’t taking care of his health. your friend is […]
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Please stop making excuses and do these 3 things
I’m a total geek when it comes to thinking about systems and streamlining. Which is probably why I return time and again to this Timothy Ferris quote from The 4-Hour Workweek: Never automate something that can be eliminated, and never delegate something that can be automated or streamlined. Otherwise, you waste someone else’s time instead of […]
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Everything has to be perfect vs. Done is better than perfect
The perfect holiday. The perfect performance. The perfect house. The perfect life. Everything has to be perfect. You can’t make mistakes. Failing is unacceptable. You have to be perfect. The perfectionist mindset creates this reality: Before you even swing your legs out of bed in the morning and put your feet on the floor, you […]
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Fear, I know you want to keep me from doing this…
I have a client who doesn’t want to make cold calls for her business because she’s afraid. Afraid of intruding and interrupting. Afraid of stumbling and not sounding confident. Afraid of being rejected. I totally get it. Whenever I do something I’ve never done before, it feels awkward and uncomfortable. I feel awkward and uncomfortable. […]
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I’m not special. You can have this superpower too.
One of my superpowers is detecting limiting beliefs. They’re rotten for your confidence and your future. You know, thoughts like I’m just not creative or I’m too old to make a career change. Here’s what I believe: There are enough external obstacles out there without putting internal ones in your way too. But this wasn’t […]
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Repeat after me: It’s OK to ask for help
Today is National Ask for Help Day. No, it’s not on your calendar and there’s no greeting card for it since I just made it up. But I think it’s going to catch on. Because I’ve decided we all need to get better at asking for help. Myself included. Every week I encounter someone who balks […]
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What do you do after you say, I don’t know how?
What do you do after you say, I don’t know how? I’d like to find more meaningful work, but I don’t know how. I’d like to start a blog, but I don’t know how. I’d love to try travel hacking, but don’t know how to do it. I know it’s time to negotiate a higher […]
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I’ve had enough of performing, perfecting, pleasing and proving
Do you know what’s exhausting? Hustling for worthiness. Performing, when you’re not an actor. Perfecting, when your standard means nothing is ever quite good enough. Pleasing, when you’re an approval junkie. Proving, when that little voice whispers, You’re not enough. I’ll bet you know what I’m talking about. Because I’ve yet to meet a woman […]
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On my nightstand: The next time I stumble and fall, I want to rise strong
In a good book the best is between the lines. –Swedish Proverb Here’s what I’m currently reading— Brené Brown is a hero of mine, so I’ve been anxiously awaiting the arrival of her new book, Rising Strong. Finally it’s here! If you’re not familiar with her other books, check them out. Here’s the short and sweet of […]
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