Why you don’t want to be on the freeway with me
OK, confession time. I’ve developed a really annoying habit. One that makes any car ride on the interstate a nightmare—for me and whoever is driving, which is usually Hans. I’ve gone from being something of a backseat driver to a very fearful passenger who’s constantly gasping as if we’re about to crash and pushing my […]
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Dear Inner Critic: Here are 5 things I want to tell you
My Inner Critic is a mean girl. And to be honest, I don’t much like her. She’s a glass half empty kind of gal. She’s overly blunt, kind of whiny, and has zero bedside manner. She’s the kind of girl who will pull the chair out from under you if you’re not paying attention. And […]
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Here are 12 things that get in the way of ease
My word for the year is ease…the absence of difficulty or effort. Just thinking about ease makes me take a deep breath and relax. Even feel a little happier. My life already has a lot of ease in it. I’ve made certain choices the last few years to move toward ease. Leaving a career I […]
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What to do when your To Do list makes you feel bad
Most of us are too quick to add items to our To Do list. Which means these lists very quickly become a mile long. Overwhelming and unmanageable. De-energizing and undoable. What’s your list like? What about you? If I looked at your To Do list, how many items would I find? Only a handful? Dozens? […]
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You need to read this if you’re a worry-wart
Worry is a slippery thing. On the one hand, it feels like something positive you’re doing. An expression of caring about someone or something. You worry… your recent graduate will have trouble finding a “real” job. your spouse won’t get the promotion at work. your sibling isn’t taking care of his health. your friend is […]
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Please stop making excuses and do these 3 things
I’m a total geek when it comes to thinking about systems and streamlining. Which is probably why I return time and again to this Timothy Ferris quote from The 4-Hour Workweek: Never automate something that can be eliminated, and never delegate something that can be automated or streamlined. Otherwise, you waste someone else’s time instead […]
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Everything has to be perfect vs. Done is better than perfect
The perfect holiday. The perfect performance. The perfect house. The perfect life. Everything has to be perfect. You can’t make mistakes. Failing is unacceptable. You have to be perfect. The perfectionist mindset creates this reality: Before you even swing your legs out of bed in the morning and put your feet on the floor, you […]
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Fear, I know you want to keep me from doing this…
I have a client who doesn’t want to make cold calls for her business because she’s afraid. Afraid of intruding and interrupting. Afraid of stumbling and not sounding confident. Afraid of being rejected. I totally get it. Whenever I do something I’ve never done before, it feels awkward and uncomfortable. I feel awkward and uncomfortable. […]
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I’m not special. You can have this superpower too.
One of my superpowers is detecting limiting beliefs. They’re rotten for your confidence and your future. You know, thoughts like I’m just not creative or I’m too old to make a career change. Here’s what I believe: There are enough external obstacles out there without putting internal ones in your way too. But this wasn’t […]
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Repeat after me: It’s OK to ask for help
Today is National Ask for Help Day. No, it’s not on your calendar and there’s no greeting card for it since I just made it up. But I think it’s going to catch on. Because I’ve decided we all need to get better at asking for help. Myself included. Every week I encounter someone who balks […]
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